WHY ARE WE SO NASTY TO EACH OTHER ONLINE? WHETHER ON FACEBOOK, TWITTER, MESSAGE BOARDS OR WEBSITES, WE SAY THINGS TO EACH THAT WE WOULD NEVER SAY FACE TO FACE. SHOULDN’T WE KNOW BETTER BY NOW?

Anonymity is a powerful force. Hiding behind a fake screen name makes us feel invincible, as well as invisible. Never mind that, on many websites, we're not as anonymous as we think—and we're not anonymous at all on Facebook. Even when we reveal our real identities, we still misbehave.You've probably seen it before, people being rude or just plain mean on Facebook or Twitter. But why do our virtual manners fail to reflect the everyday ones? Social networks like Facebook and Twitter began as a way to communicate with far off friends and family, but have since morphed into a means for people to start arguments and harass each other. People seem to be taking pride in expressing this bad behavior to others because at least initially it appears to be anonymous and they can get away with it. Manners and being polite seem to disappear the second we log on to the virtual world. Whether it's a text message, a tweet, or Facebook post you can't always read sarcasm.Bullies used to be just a playground problem, now it's widespread. Everyone has heard of cyber-bullying but not everyone is a witness to it. I think a lot of it is a way to blow off steam another thing is they don't really think before typing. You have to own the words you speak as well as the ones you type. What you type can come back and haunt you. It's not as simple as deleting a post or tweet. A good rule of thumb is to think twice before pressing send and ask yourself is this something I would say to the person face-to-face? We can garner healthy discussion online, that is if we don't abuse the power the Internet and social networks have provided. We always need to ask ourselves the question, just because we can do something, should we?

It is said, the pen is mightier than the sword, but the keyboard may prove mightier still........
Do not speak evil against one another, brothers. The one who speaks against a brother or judges his brother, speaks evil against the law and judges the law. But if you judge the law, you are not a doer of the law but a judge. There is only one lawgiver and judge, he who is able to save and to destroy. But who are you to judge your neighbor?
Most people who insult other people are insecure. They think that it will make them feel better if they put someone else down, or they insult the other person to take attention off of themselves. Sometimes people who are angry insult other people because they are not mature enough to think of a different way to handle their anger except to try to start a fight or to try to make the other person feel bad. Mature people can communicate with others without insulting them. Any ideas can be discussed between mature adults without fighting or insulting each other. Mature people can "agree to disagree" and give each other the right to have different opinions. The best way to handle an insult is to ignore it, because what the immature person wants is to make you upset. If you cannot ignore the insult, you can say something like, "Mature people don't have to insult each other to communicate," and walk away. Walking away is always best because the immature person is not going to change and suddenly stop acting immature. If the person insulting you is someone you want to keep as a friend, you should say something like, "That really hurts my feelings when you say something like that. Can we talk without insults?" - this lets the person know that they need to change their behavior, and if they are friends, they will want to change and mature. Other reasons could include boredom, desire to be funny, genuine or learned hatred of another person or culture. Insults could depend on the situation, and it could be a person's way of taking their anger out on one person instead of the thing they are angry at. Insults can also be used as a form of control, whether it is to control another person, to control a conversation. Insulting outbursts are often used by people who are angry that their lives are out of control in other ways…..

BETTY NDEJEMBI NEVER IMAGINED THAT SHE WOULD BECOME A VICTIM OF CYBER BULLYING, SHE WAS NO STRANGER TO PERSONAL CHALLENGES, BUT HER EXPERIENCE WITH CYBER BULLYING WAS REALLY SOMETHING SHE WAS NOT PREPARED FOR>> R.I.P BEAUTIFUL

 one of the most destructive of bullying tactics in recent decades. The prevalence of cyber bullying is a result of how easily cyber bullies can have access to their victims. Many people do not realize the extreme effects that cyber bullying can have on children and teens.
Bullied her to death.How sad! Yet will unashamedly say #RIP... How  dare they? Cyberbullying is as dangerously bad as Ebola!They both kill

SUICIDE AND SUICIDAL BEHAVIOR !!! # NEVER IGNORE A SUICIDE THREAT OR ATTEMPTED SUICIDE

Suicide is the act of taking one's own life on purpose. Suicidal behavior is any action that could cause a person to die, such as taking a drug overdose or crashing a car on purpose.

Causes

Suicide and suicidal behaviors usually occur in people with one or more of the following:
People who try to commit suicide are often trying to get away from a situation that seems impossible to deal with. Many who make a suicide attempt are seeking relief from:
  • Feeling ashamed, guilty, or like a burden to others
  • Feeling like a victim
  • Feelings of rejection, loss, or loneliness
Suicidal behaviors may occur when there is a situation or event that the person finds overwhelming, such as:
  • Aging (the elderly have the highest rate of suicide)
  • Death of a loved one
  • Drug or alcohol use
  • Emotional trauma
  • Serious physical illness
  • Unemployment or money problems
Risk factors for suicide in teenagers include:
  • Access to guns
  • Family member who committed suicide
  • History of hurting themselves on purpose
  • History of being neglected or abused
  • Living in communities where there have been recent outbreaks of suicide in young people
  • Romantic breakup
Most suicide attempts do not result in death. Many of these attempts are done in a way that makes rescue possible. These attempts are often a cry for help.
Some people attempt suicide in a way that is less likely to be fatal, such as poisoning or overdose. Men are more likely to choose violent methods, such as shooting themselves. As a result, suicide attempts by men are more likely to result in death.
Relatives of people who attempt or commit suicide often blame themselves or become very angry. They may see the suicide attempt as selfish. However, people who try to commit suicide often mistakenly believe that they are doing their friends and relatives a favor by taking themselves out of the world.

Symptoms

Often, but not always, a person may show certain signs and behaviors before a suicide attempt, such as:
  • Having trouble concentrating or thinking clearly
  • Giving away belongings
  • Talking about going away or the need to "get my affairs in order"
  • Suddenly changing behavior, especially calmness after a period of anxiety
  • Losing interest in activities they used to enjoy
  • Self-destructive behaviors, such as heavily drinking alcohol, using illegal drugs, or cutting their body
  • Pulling away from friends or not wanting to go out
  • Suddenly having trouble in school or work
  • Talking about death or suicide, or even saying that they want to hurt themselves
  • Talking about feeling hopeless or guilty
  • Changing sleep or eating habits
  • Arranging ways to take their own life (such as buying a gun or many pills)

Treatment

People who are at risk of suicidal behavior may not seek treatment for many reasons, including:
  • They believe nothing will help
  • They do not want to tell anyone they have problems
  • They think asking for help is a sign of weakness
  • They do not know where to go for help
A person may need emergency treatment after a suicide attempt. They may need first aid, CPR, or more intensive treatments.
People who try to commit suicide may need to stay in a hospital for treatment and to reduce the risk of future attempts. Therapy is one of the most important parts of treatment.
Any mental health disorder that may have led to the suicide attempt should be evaluated and treated. This includes:
  • Bipolar disorder
  • Borderline personality disorder
  • Drug or alcohol dependence
  • Major depression
  • Schizophrenia
Always take suicide attempts and threats seriously. If you or someone you know is thinking about suicide, there are numbers that you can call from anywhere in the United States, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week: 1-800-SUICIDE or 1-800-999-9999.
Call the local emergency number (such as 911) right away if someone you know has attempted suicide. Do not leave the person alone, even after you have called for help.

Outlook (Prognosis)

About one-third of people who try to commit suicide will try again within 1 year. About 10% of people who threaten or try to commit suicide will eventually kill themselves.

When to Contact a Medical Professional

Call a health care provider right away if you or someone you know is having thoughts of suicide. The person needs mental health care right away. Do not dismiss the person as just trying to get attention.

Prevention

Avoiding alcohol and drugs (other than prescribed medicines) can reduce the risk of suicide.
In homes with children or teenagers:
  • Keep all prescription medicines high up and locked.
  • Do not keep alcohol in the home or keep it locked up.
  • Do not keep guns in the home. If you do keep guns in the home, lock them and keep the bullets separate.
Many people who try to commit suicide talk about it before making the attempt. Sometimes, just talking to someone who cares and who does not judge them is enough to reduce the risk of suicide.
However, if you are a friend, family member, or just know someone who you think may attempt suicide, never try to manage the problem on your own. Seek help. Suicide prevention centers have telephone "hotline" services.
Never ignore a suicide threat or attempted suicide.
PROPS: Medline Plus


BRINGING THE 'SMILE A DAY' MUSIC CHALLENGE TO OUR COMMUNITY!!

Bringing the “SMILE A DAY” music challenge to our community!
After the successful launch, The Smile Initiative adventure beginning in Kenya teams up with HERO RADIO (99.0 FM) and our first stop will be at THE Prinsloo 7s Nakuru RFC on the 30th TO 31st August, 2014.
Candy records will give the youths a chance of a lifetime, where they will get 3 MINUTES to compose and sing a HAPPY SONG with a Grin Creeping across your face!!!!!!!!
The most creative writer and best singer gets’ their video uploaded on our YouTube channel and the video with the most views WINS BIG with CANDY n CANDY RECORDS!!!!
Watch out for the Candy n Candy Records crew who will be giving out Smiley Tags, taking instant photos and FUN activities for everyone.

It is worth mentioning that this initiative comes as part of a series of community initiatives.

Kind regards, 

Mercy kimani

CHIBU DANGOTE a.k.a DIAMOND PLATNUMZ TO PERFORM @ THE AFRICAN FESTIVAL IN STUTTGART AND ESSEN/ GERMANY

Britts Events Management based in Stuttgart Germany, is hosting an African festival event coming up on the 29th and 30th of August 2014, this Event is to bring all Africans living in Germany and near by countries together to celebrate the African Culture, !!! Diamond Platnumz will present an African Idol from the East African Nature. Diamond is considered influential among his fans, and is said to be the most loved and decorated Tanzanian artist at the moment.

THE MOST AMAZING POSITIVE VIBES FROM SOME OF THE YOUNG FOLKS DOES IN BONGO -THAT WE HARDLY KNOW!!

On June 16th I was at Julius Nyerere International Airport getting ready to board a flight to Nairobi for the Kenya edition of the High Performance Leadership seminar with Azim Jamal and Brian Tracy. While at the airport, I was pleasantly surprised to meet my university professor from my undergraduate days at Mzumbe University who was boarding the same flight. We sat down over a cup of coffee and he praised me for my work and acknowledged that the university is very proud to have produced such a person as me. Just to hear him speak so highly of me really motivated me to continue what I am doing and keep pushing for change in the world.
The main topic of discuss with the Professor was the current rebasing of Gross Domestic Product (GDP) of some African countries, most prominent being Nigeria, and similar initiatives in Kenya and South Africa.The United Nations defines rebasing as the "process of replacing present price structure (base year) to compile volume measures of GDP with a new or more recent base year." Rebasing is theoretically a means of allowing the computation of more accurate GDP figures and thus provide a more realistic picture of the economic landscape in a country. After rebasing, Nigeria has now overtaken South Africa as the continent's biggest economy with GDP now worth $510bn (2013 figures).
So what has Nigeria done during its rebasing exercise? The rebased GDP figures now include the informal sector and show a much greater contribution of services sector. E-commerce, telecommunications and its prolific "Nollywood" film industry are now some of the most important sectors in the Nigerian economy. Nollywood generates nearly $600 million a year and employs more than a million people, making it the country's second-largest employer after agriculture. The number of industries covered in GDP computation has increased from 33 to 46 while greater weighting has been allocated to sectors such as telecommunications.Nigeria and South Africa have the two largest mobile phone markets in Africa[there are now some 120 million mobile-phone subscribers in Nigeria, out of a population of 170 million. Under the new set of data, the oil and gas sector, by far the biggest source of government revenue, contributed 14 percent of GDP compared with 32 percent under the old GDP computations.
Nigeria and South Africa are the largest mobile markets in sub-Saharan Africa, and cell-phone use has been exploding in the country
Why are African countries such as Nigeria rebasing of their GDP now? One reason could be that it is a new marketing strategy. To be named as biggest economy in Africa undoubtedly creates its own hype and can significantly improve an economy's prospects in attracting foreign investment.
"One estimate suggests that for twenty years sub-Saharan African economies have been growing three times faster than suggested by the 'official' data."
When Ghana rebased in 2010, its GDP increased by 60 percent, transforming it instantly from a "low-income" country into a "lower-middle-income" country.
Closer to home in East Africa, currently Kenya is rebasing its economy so as to maintain its position as the biggest economy in East Africa. The rebasing exercise, which shifts the base year from 2001 to 2009, is expected to show an expansion of the economy by 20.6%. economist they urge Nigeria techniques does not reflect reality,
Despite the changes in GDP computation, Nigeria has per capita income of $3,000 which is low – and well below South Africa's at $7,336. Nigerians continue to struggle with poverty, inequality and electricity shortages.
What is the current status in East Africa? Kenya has GDP of $45 billion; Tanzania has $34 billion GDP, Uganda has $23 billion GDP, Rwanda $7 billion GDP and Burundi is $2.4 billion GDP. Due to oil and gas discoveries in Uganda and Tanzania,their respective GDPs are expected to significantly increase in the coming years. In the case of Tanzania, the economy is expected to become the 3rd biggest economy in Africa by 2035 if key obstacles are going to be resolved.
During my discussion with Professor two issues arose and I would like to share them with you:
Data might show a country's GDP growing rapidly but the majority of its people are poor. It may be that the GDP is being generated and controlled by very wealthy while rest remain poor and powerless. In a recent interview, Dr Yemi Kale, Statician General of the National Bureau of Statistics of Nigeria said: "While it [GDP] depicts how rich a nation is, this is not necessarily the same as showing how rich the individuals in the nation are, due to the problem of unequal distribution of wealth. Similarly, growth in GDP is not synonymous with job creation.
If the rest of Africa adopts the same techniques Africa is going to be rich in term of figure not real life.
Nigeria vs South Africa

Nigeria's takes the title of Africa's biggest economy will fuel a longstanding rivalry with South Africa. South Africa currently represents Africa at the G20, as well as in the "BRICS" group of the most powerful emerging economies, which also includes Brazil, Russia, India and China. Nigeria may argue that it should join those clubs too.
Just the other day while I was reviewing a report on the Ease of Doing Business criteria, I discovered that some of the measures to encourage investment and reduce red tape are very simple. Singapore has been ranked number one due to fact that they have been doing well and scoring good marks in the following areas: Starting A Business, Dealing with Construction Permits, Getting Electricity, Registering Property, Getting Credit, Protecting Investors, Paying Taxes, Trading Across Borders, Enforcing Contracts and Resolving Insolvency.
Back to Tanzania, why has it not been easy to solve the above mention issues quickly? Our nation, like any other nation, is complex machine. However, we can rapidly develop if we succeed in creating and enterprising, business-minded economy. Such an entrepreneurial society will increase efficiency and vastly increase economic growth and development as has been the case in countries such as Singapore, Malaysia and South Korea. As the country develops more rapidly it will also develop politically and exhibit greater democracy and good governance. This will in turn create greater alignment between business and politics as they seek to promote mutual interests, which should mean Tanzanians having an even greater say in their local politics, hence greater development. With all the benefits it can bring, it is imperative to create an enterprising, business-minded society as soon as possible.
I look forward to get feedback from you soon as possible.
Always your fan,
Deogratius Kilawe
C.E.O - Mikono Speakers Worldwide
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# TBT > SEIF KABELELE CHIT CHAT WITH YVONE CHAKACHAKA

Yvonne Chaka Chaka's musical career and philanthropic work have earned her the title "Princess of Africa" by people around the world.  A singer for over two decades, she rose to fame during the height of apartheid with her infectious pop melodies and dance music. Since then, her music has spread across cultures as she has travelled to perform with top musicians, including Bono, Angelique Kidjo and Annie Lennox.   Yvonne Chaka Chaka's passionate commitment to mothers and children in the fight against malaria earned her the honour of serving as a United Nations Goodwill Ambassador. In her documentary film entitled The Motherland Tour....she shares grassroots stories about this cause from across the African continent.   Her philosophy is "when we are born we come with nothing and when we die, we die with nothing". Her dynamic energy and passion for life continue to inspire women and communities worldwide. With over 16 award-winning albums, a string of gold and platinum hits and a SAMA victory for Best Female Singer, Yvonne Chaka Chaka has rightfully earned her title as the Princess of Africa. She has worked with some of the best and most respected musicians and producers in the industry, such as Sello 'Chicco' Twala, Sipho ‘Hotstix’ Mabuse and Gabi Le Roux and has become a household name across Africa. Her dazzling career path has seen her perform for Nelson Mandela’s 85th birthday party and meet the likes of Queen Elizabeth II and Oprah Winfrey. Chaka Chaka was born in Dobsonville in Soweto and became the first black child to appear on South African television when in 1981 Sugar Shack, a talent show, introduced her to the South African public. She started singing at 19 in 1985 when Phil Hollis of Dephon Records discovered her in Johannesburg and shortly after, released her debut album I’m in Love With a DJ, which sold and incredible 35,000 copies. Hits such as I'm Burning Up, I Cry for Freedom, Makoti, Motherland and the ever-popular, Umqombothi immediately ensured
Chaka Chaka's status as a star on South Africa's Mbaqanga music scene. Chaka Chaka's award-winning albums include Burning Up, Sangoma, Who’s The Boss, Motherland, Be Proud to be African, Thank You Mr DJ, Back on my Feet, Rhythm of Life, Who's got the Power, Bombani (TikoRahini), Power of Afrika, Yvonne and Friends and Kwenzenjani, all of which have been top-sellers during her illustrious career. In addition to a prosperous performance career, Chaka Chaka has two diplomas from the University of South Africa, one in Adult Education, another in Local Government, Management and Administration. She also studied Speech and Drama at Trinity College, London, qualifying in 1997. She teaches literacy part time at the University of South Africa, sits on several boards  of charitable organisations and NGOs, and serves on the board of the Johannesburg Tourism Company. She has her own music label and production company and together with her husband, Dr Mandlalele Mhinga, owns a limousine company.

 Seif Kabelele: What is your favorite South African song ever
My favorite songs are Nkalakatha (Mandoza) and Unqombothi (Yvonne  Chaka Chaka). I'm crazy about our National Anthem and like "Hie kommie bokke" too.
Seif Kabelele: What made you realize that music was your path?
Ever since I was young,I was drawn to it.I could sit for hours and listen to   music,especially the heartfelt songs that told stories; singer songwriters and musical theater. When I was born in 1965 in Soweto, it was during apartheid, and those were extremely difficult times. When I was little I would strum an empty tin and blow into a broomstick pretending it was a microphone. I sang in church choirs. I loved singing. My father was a great musician who could never realise his dream. He died when I was 11 years old. I inherited my talent from both parents, so music is in my blood. I am blessed that I achieved what my father had not been able to accomplish.

Seif Kabelele: How would you describe the music that you typically create?
I’m a storyteller and my music cuts across many genres.Melodic and lyric-intensive.Every song is a story or a poem told through music


HOLY SHIT THIS IS AWESOME, THE NEVER BACK DOWN SERIES IS MY SHIT IF THE THIRD ONE STARTS WITH YOU GUYS , THAT SHIT IS GOING TO BE A GREAT MOVIE


BIG BROTHER AFRICA 2014 UNLEASHES ‘HOTSHOTS’- NIGERIAN STAR IK OSAKIODUWA WILL ONCE AGAIN BE THE HOST FOR THE FIFTH TIME IN A ROW

Ikponmwosa Osakioduwa is a Nigerian Radio and television on air personality. He was known to most just as Wildchild but since his marriage, has been known as simply IK. He
is known for his work with Rhythm 93.7fm, but he is also a presenter on MNet’s Studio 53, and is best known as the presenter of Big Brother Africa

BIOGRAPHY
He was born in Lagos, Nigeria to homemaker Felicia Oviawe and Brigadier General Samuel Oviawe, he is the middle child of five children. I.k. started out on stage at a young age, acting in stage
plays and being in the choir as early as age 7. At age 15 along with some of his siblings and cousins recorded a tape in which he pretended to be a radio show host taking calls from listeners. I.k. attended The
University of Lagos where he got his start in the television industry on a show called Campus circuit television which aired on Africa Independent Television. After that he took a break from the industry
to concentrate on his education and he graduated with a degree in Economics.

CAREER- Early Career
He studied Economics at the University of Lagos. While studying he took part in many stage plays and concerts, where he discovered and groomed his talent as a Master of Ceremonies/Host. After graduating
from University in 2001, Osakioduwa worked for Rhythm 93.7 FM, as a presenter popularly known as The Wild Child (thanks to his humorous and unpredictable personality). However, in compliance with the Nigerian Youth Service Corps, which is a one-year mandatory service of all graduate Nigerians, he had to leave the radio station to serve in a neighbouring state. He also worked in an advertising firm as a Client Service Executive, and in 2005 he returned to the radio station, Rhythm 93.7, and retained the name The Wild Child.

Temptation Nigeria
The show featured participants from across Nigeria whose knowledge of their country is the major strength for participation. Hosted jointly by IK Osakioduwa, and Kemi Adetiba

Studio 53
As a field presenter on the M-Net magazine show that showcases cultural events, historical places, music, art, design, fashion and celebrity personalities from across the African continent.

Big Brother Africa
He started hosting the reality series in September 2009 taking over from Kabelo Ngakane. Big Brother Africa went on to phenomenal success, putting Osakioduwa in the continental spotlight. The
following year, when he became the sole host, Osakioduwa’s on-screen enthusiasm and wit made him an milestone sensation, and the show was seen by millions of viewers in the continent. Osakioduwa inked a deal
with MNET Africa to continue to host Big Brother Africa, making him the most sort after reality television host in Nigeria / Africa to date. He says, “BBA was the first show I’d done of this magnitude, it
was amazing to be in 40-million homes across Africa all at once. At first it’s super intimidating, but you get used to it before the end of the season.”.

In 2001, Osakioduwa started as host of the radio program “Rap Kulture”. He has been the host for almost all the shows for Rhythm 93.7 FM at one time or another. He’s currently on the “Morning Drive” with
co-host Anita ‘Omaliicha’ and “Dance Party with IK”.

Lagos Countdown Show
In December 2012, similar to the ones in Times Square(New York) Beijing, Dubai, Shanghai, he hosted the Lagos countdown show with co-hosts Ariyike Akinbobola, Quest; which is the first of its kind in Nigeria.

PERSONAL LIFE 
Ikponmwosa and Olohije Osakioduwa were married in a church ceremony on the 3rd of October, 2008 in Lagos after four years of friendship and a year of dating. In an interview with The Expatriate
Magazine,“Olo was the only friend who seemed to get me and did not want to change me…”. The couple have two children Osahar and Micah.
  ......In May 2012 Osakioduwa lost his mother, Felicia Oviawe to cancer.......
Big Brother Africa, the continent’s biggest reality show, returns for its ninth season on Sunday, September 7, with the housemates competing for a massive prize pot of $300 000.AfricaMagic can reveal that the new season will be known as Hotshots. This season’s housemates have hidden talents; they adore the spotlight and will let nothing stand in the way of their pursuit of fame and fortune.Wangi Mba-Uzoukwu, M-Net Africa regional director (West Africa), says viewers are in for almost as many surprises as the housemates.
“We work hard to make each season of Big Brother Africa bigger than the last — and we have really upped the ante this year,” she says. “Big Brother Hotshots is going to bring viewers exciting innovations, heart-stopping twists and uniquely African glamour, 24/7 for 91 days.
“Both fans and housemates are in for some hard-to-miss television!” The housemates will start the game in two ultra-glamorous houses which are built with magic, fun and mischief in mind. For 91 days, they will do their best to outshine each other in the hope of convincing Africa that they are the continent’s biggest Hotshot. They will party like A-listers, rub shoulders with celebrity guests and face formidable challenges while negotiating Biggie’s famous curveballs and twists. The logo for Big Brother Hotshots hints at the glamorous aspects of this season but viewers will have to stay tuned 24/7 to see what Biggie has planned this season.

Nigerian star IK Osakioduwa, will once again be the host for the fifth time in a row.

FIRST, LOOK @ THIS AMAZING PHOTO OF CHIMPS AT A RESCUE CENTER GRIEVING 4 THEIR FRIEND WHO DIED OF OLD AGE

 TAKE A MOMENT TO READ THIS STORY ABOUT ONE MAN AND AN EXTRAORDINARY ACT OF KINDNESS THAT CHANGED A STRANGERS LIFE

THE ONE WHO MAKES YOU CRY ISN’T WORTH YOUR TEARS. THE ONE WHO IS WORTH YOUR TEARS WOULD NEVER MAKE YOU CRY….

Everyone: What do you think of the quote from the top???

# Jameras>>> the top quote is completely impossible. When you love someone - you WILL cry.


#Tanya>>> First I dont agree with the quote. When you really love someone you are honest and being honest with eachother isn't always pleasant or easy so you will shed tears occasionally even over a stupid bicker :) The ones you love DO make you cry simply because you care more about them than the ones you dont love. If that makes sense. 

I dont treat anyone like the enemy unless they are rude. But some women, yes they treat men like enemies.

#Jannette>>> Well, maybe because when girls get to know the guy and let down her guard, he just makes her feel bad. Sometimes boys are jerks. It is just in their nature. But some guys are so nice, you might even think they are gay. By the way, I love the quote.

#Toots>>>> I completely agree with the "quote"...I think it is rather prophetic and true... No..I NEVER treat someone like the "enemy" until he or she gives me reason to treat them otherwise...I rather like to think people are basically good...I treat men like I want to be treated myself...however, if they show me that they cannot act like human beings, I'll have nothing to do with you.. 
Yeah..a lot of guys are a$%holes, but, I just avoid those types of people..(a lot of women fall into that category as well)... 
I am on marriage number three...(and my LAST!)....and my wonderful hubbie is exactly like your quote... 
FOLKS: I am 49 years old..and I can tell you without a doubt, that the above quote should be true of ALL of your relationships...if the opposite is true, you need to find someone new...now, does it mean you'll NEVER cry or feel hurt?..NO! But someone who really and truly loves you would do anything to keep from hurting you...and feel TERRIBLE if they accidently do...someone who intentionally hurts you is someone you need to be without...trust me..


#Follow Your Heart>>> I like that quote alot yet here I am in a situation where I am crying over someone that wronged me because I am head over heals in love with him. I forgave him for what he did and I am still chasing him to get him back. But this is a hurt from someone that I never could of imagined in my wildest dreams could of hurt me. And this is after 8 years of knowing him, never once being hurt by him and he hurt me few months ago for the first time and its the worst feeling in the world. :( I trusted him with everything I have. That is the worst, when your betrayed by someone like that.


#Asha Kapeche>>> I fall in love & trust very very quickly. On the same note, I attract & am attracted to very unhealthy relationships. I will never learn. 
*It's a quote. I don't think too much more of it than that.* 
But I believe that a man who loves you can still make you cry




VISIT BY THE PRESIDENT OF UNITED REPUBLIC OF TANZANIA, HE DR JAKAYA MRISHO KIKWETE TO WITNESS WORLD LUNG FOUNDATION’S ICT INOVATIONS IN PREVENTING MATERNAL MORTALITY

On the 20th August, 2014, Mwaya village, in Ulanga district, Morogoro came to a standstill as the president of the United Republic of Tanzania; HE Dr Jakaya Mrisho Kikwete was visiting WLF-supported Mwaya Health Centre.
A team of experts and technicians led by the Deputy Clinical Director of World Lung Foundation, Dr Sunday Alfred Dominico demonstrated before the president various ICT solutions that have been developed by the foundation to supplement other interventions in reducing maternal and new-born mortality.
The president witnessed one of the teleconference in which, various health care providers working in remote hard-to-reach areas of Tanzania where connected to the clinical director, Dr Hamed Mohamed in Dar es Salaam. A clinical case operated at Mwaya Health Centre was shared and discussed. Dr Kikwete, accompanied by the first lady Mama Salma Kikwete, applauded World Lung Foundations efforts in comprehensively implementing Tanzania’s sharpened one plan.
Commenting at the event, Minister of State in the President's Office for Public Service Management, HE, Selina Kombani(Ulanga East MP)commended World Lung Foundation’s work at Mwaya, including constructing modern  state-of-the-art staff houses, theatre, maternity wing, water well, laboratory  and equipping the facility with generators, solar systems and surgical equipments, drugs and supplies. Mwaya health centre is one of the 15 facilities supported by World Lung Foundation, in Kigoma, Pwani and Morogoro.  The foundation, led by the Director Dr. Nguke Mwakatundu, implements a maternal health project that is based on decentralizing life serving Emergency Obstetric Care to remote facilities beyond district hospital and tasking shifting of these skills to non-physician clinicians.

HALLE BERRY GOES ‘WILD’ FOR NEW FRAGRANCE

Text by Splash News


“Halle Berry looks “wildly” sexy in this shoot for her new fragrance. The product, Wild Essence Halle Berry, claims to, “capture the sensual essence of a women in nature,” and features the X-Men actress in a sheer, black mesh dress against a jungle backdrop. “The essence of a woman is in body and soul and becomes more sensual in nature,” said the Oscar-winning actress. Adding: “With my newest fragrance I wanted to go deep into the rainforest where I could capture the primal richness of nature in an effortless scent.” The perfume, which includes Sicilian bergamot, “juicy black currant and mandarin zest” with lighter hints of sandalwood bark and white patchouli costs around $28.00 for 30ml. “I love the idea of creating a fragrance that will allow women to connect with nature, through perfume,” said Berry, 48. Described as a “sparkling, multi-floral” aroma the adverts appear to be shot in a tropical climate and Berry’s skin has a glowing sheen. “The enticing, sexy campaign powerfully captures the sensual connection between Halle and nature, magnetized by the enveloping strength of scent,” says the campaign’s blurb.”

Photo: Cliff Watts/Splash/Coty

DEATH IS THE LAST CHAPTER IN TIME, BUT THE FIRST CHAPTER IN ETERNITY. YOU WILL BE MISSED MORE FOR YOUR CHARISMA AND CARING FOR OTHERS, REST IN PEACE MY FRIEND YUNUS MWAKISU

  Sometimes, the Lord just takes blessed people because they've filled their purpose early. Everyone plays their own song. They sing their story to the world and leave behind a melody of memories. Sometimes... their song is cut short and ends too early. But that doesn't mean their music was any less sweet or that they left any less of an impression

REST IN PEACE JUDGE LEWIS MAKAME

He was the chairperson of both the Tanzanian National Electoral Commission and the Electoral Commissions Forum of SADC Countries (SADC-ECF) 

HOLDING ONTO A GRUDGE IS SOMETHING THAT, BEING HUMAN, WE DO. @ ONE TIME OR ANOTHER, YOU PROBABLY HAVE FOUND SOMEONE’S BEHAVIOUR OR INTENTIONS UNFORGIVABLE. BUT HOLDING A GRUDGE IS HARMFUL AND COUNTERPRODUCTIVE. A GRUDGE WORKS LIKE A SLOW LEAK, A SMALL HOLE THROUGH WHICH YOUR ENERGY CONTINUALLY SEEPS

Letting go of a grudge is actually healing. Finding a more constructive way to deal with your feelings is the key - you don't have to wait for the offending person to apologize.

Why Do We Hold onto Grudges?

Grudges stay with you, like chewing gum on the bottom of your shoe. You probably have a belief that holding onto resentment will prevent you from ever being taken advantage of again. Ironically, a grudge maintains the illusion of having control while actually making you more vulnerable.
For example, if your co-worker is giving a special presentation at a staff meeting, you may decide not to attend because of a grudge you hold against her. As a result, you are uninformed of a crucial decision made at the meeting, and this may affect your job performance.
Maybe you hold onto a grudge because you want to get even. You may believe that letting go of your grudge is too easy on the other person. In reality, revenge is rarely satisfying.

The Mental Stress

A grudge and the need to get even can become all-consuming. As you replay what happened to you over and over again in your mind, the sense of being wronged grows disproportionately. The intense negative emotions you feel begin to drain you of mental energy, not the energy of the person you are angry with.

The Physical Stress

Anger doesn't just affect your head. According to the Mayo Clinic and the American College of Cardiology Anger can cause an irregular heart beat, and potentially contribute to heart disease, high blood pressure, ulcers, and other health problems.

The Block to Progress

As long as you nurse a grudge, you don't think about constructive solutions to problem. The grudge "blinds" you. Expressing the hurt and asking for an apology builds assertiveness and the ability to move on.

How to Get Rid of a Grudge

  • Review the situation carefully and calmly
  • Determine if the slight was real or imagined
  • Think of alternative explanations - put yourself in the other person's shoes
    • Did the person really mean to hurt you?
    • If they were insensitive, was it deliberate or an accident?
Practice having a conversation with yourself. It might sound like this:
-The Grudge: "If I'm nice to others, they should be nice to me.

-The Nudge: "It would be great if the world worked that way, but it doesn't. I'm wise enough to realize that people aren't always fair or nice."

-The Grudge: "I just can't stand that this has happened to me."

-The Nudge: "Of course I can stand it. I don't have to cave in emotionally and turn all my good feelings over to this one bad incident."

-The Grudge: "that person is evil and horrible and deserves my hatred."

-The Nudge: "This person is human, like me. They have bad days, problems in their lives and pressures that I don't know about. I can't control all the difficult people I meet in life, but I can control how much I let them get to me."

A Ritual Letting Go

Still Struggling to let go? For some people, a personal ritual that symbolizes the internal struggle can help you let go. Your serious side may say you're being silly, but if it gets you back on track, try it. Here are some examples that others have used: Banish the grudge - write your feelings down, put them in an envelope and send them to a fictional address in Siberia (skip the return address). Chances are the letter will never reach Siberia, but it won't find its way back to you either.

Record the grudge - talk about your feelings while you record them. Yell, curse or cry, but get it out of your system. When you are finished drop the CD in a recycling bin, record over it or save it for some day in the future when you can laugh at the moment.
Whatever the method, the important thing is to concentrate on the good feeling of letting go.