TO THE HATERS OUT THERE, BELIEVE ME, YOU DON’T HAVE TO BE A BLOGGER IN ORDER TO DEAL WITH HATERS…

“I could never do what you do.” We were sitting around Fosters-Mikocheni when my friend said those words to me. My friend is brilliant, funny, and anexceptional writer, but when I asked him what is stopping him from launching his own blog (something that he has talked about doing for months), that was his response. He had more to say too: “People are so cruel and judgmental. I don’t think that I have what it takes to put my writing out there for the world to rip apart and judge. There are so many haters out there.” Sadly, he’s absolutely right. There are so many haters out there. Some of you already know this, but it took me 3 long years to find the guts to publish my first ever blog post here on this site. The reason for the ridiculously long delay, you might be wondering? Fear of dealing with criticism from the haters. Yep, that’s it. That fear almost stopped me from ever hitting “Publish” on my very first blog post. Almost. It took me a while to completely overcome this fear, but now with almost 4 years of blogging under my belt, I can say with 100% confidence that haters do not need to be feared. They do need to be dealt with, though. The problem is that when it comes to dealing with haters, most people give the same tired advice that you have probably heard before:

> Ignore them.

> Get a thicker skin.

>Fight fire with fire.

There are definitely much better ways to silence the haters, so without further ado, let’s get on with the business of zipping their lips once and for all.

* The Best Way To Deal With Haters:

Believe me, you don’t have to be a blogger in order to deal with haters. How many people reading this can relate to dealing with people in your lives who seemingly take great joy in pointing out your flaws, inadequacies, and imperfections? Also, just to be clear–this post is not about constructive criticism. There’s nothing wrong with that at all. This post is solely about the destructive kind. The destructive criticism could be about your parenting skills, your ability to do your job, how you dress, who you decided to date/marry, the house you live in, the car you drive, your positive attitude, your weight, your hair, the fact that you smile too much, your writing ability…the list could literally go on and on.
You might think that since I write about positivity, I must be immune from dealing with haters. Everyone loves positivity, right?

Here are some very real examples of the some the hate that I’ve had to deal with since launching Seif Kabelele Blog :

*Your blog is way too positive. This is a shitty world that we live in and you clearly live in a fantasy land that’s nothing like the real world. You need to quit being such a phony.

* I can’t take you seriously as a “positivity blogger” because you use the words sh*t and a**hole in your blog posts. Stop pretending that you’re a positive person.


There’s a lot more where those came from, but I’m sure that you get the point.
So, how do I deal with these special people? It’s simple. I do more of what they hate. This one is pretty important, so I’ll say it again: The best way to silence the haters is to do more of what they hate. Here’s an example of what I’m talking about:

A few years ago at work, I had a very motivated group of haters who loved to comment on how “phony” I was to anyone who would listen. To them, I was “too nice” and I “smiled too much” to be authentic and real, and apparently, my positive attitude annoyed the hell out of them. Yes, seriously. You can’t make this stuff up. Let’s be honest–what if I foolishly tried to make these people happy by smiling less and by switching up my style by mean-mugging everyone all day and treating people like crap? Would that make them “like me” more? Of course not. Changing up my style wouldn’t magically turn me into best friends with those people (not that I wanted to be friends with people like that anyway.)
So instead, I did the only logical thing. I chose to smile more, I continued to be friendly as possible, and most importantly, I chose to be me, unapologetically.

Interestingly enough, once they realized that their snide comments and immature hating had absolutely no effect on my behavior, the haters were effectively silenced and they moved on to another target who would give them the emotional reaction they craved. Believe me, it’s very possible to rise above the hate, and if you’re dealing with haters, you can rise above it too by: 1) showing your haters that their words have no effect on you and 2) showing them that you’re happy with who you are by doing more of what they hate. I know that at Seif Kabelele Blog  I won’t be able to please everyone. For some people, I’m too positive.
For some people, I’m not positive enough. For some people, dropping an occasional curse word means that I’m a negative person. For some people, because I’m not dropping a steady stream of “F-bombs” from my keyboard onto this page, that means that I’m soft and “afraid to keep it real.” This is all part of the gig–no matter where you go or what you choose to do, the critics will be waiting.

But given the choice to be the person who is critiquing the thing from the sidelines or doing the thing in the arena (shout out to Brother Mohamed Mgori !), I can always lean on the fact that I’m choosing to live each day courageously in the arena. If you’re with me in the arena, then know this–no matter what you’re doing, it is impossible to make everyone happy. Good thing that’s not my goal, and I hope that it’s not yours either. As a guy who has spent the majority of my adult life being scared to show the world the “real me” for fear of being judged by the haters, those days are over. Instead, I will keep giving you every last drop of the authentic Seif Kabelele. Every. Single. Day. Like the late Kurt Cobain said, “I’d rather be hated for who I am than loved for who I am not.”

* Hurt People Hurt People*
“I hope that you get cancer and die.”
I remember reading the above comment directed toward the author of a very popular blog that I like to read, and at first, that comment shook me to my core. Seriously, that’s an incredibly horrific thing to say to someone. What type of sick bastard would wish cancer upon another human being? Reflecting back on it now, I completely get it. Only someone who is severely hurting inside would ever take the time to type up something like that and then publish it on a website for the whole world to see. Personally speaking, the comments that I shared earlier from my haters are actually the “PG-rated versions” of the comments that I’ve received over the past 10 months.

Some comments that I’ve received in the past are so ugly, mean, and cartoonishly evil that they just cannot be taken seriously. Here are two very real observations that I’ve made about haters, that I’m sure you’ll agree with:

1) I have never in my life seen a well-adjusted and happy person who purposely writes vicious, hate-filled emails/comments in an attempt to tear someone else down. Why? Because they’re too busy being well-adjusted and happy to waste their time being an insufferable jerk, that’s why.

2) I have never received a piece of vicious criticism from a person who is actually putting him/herself out there by creating anything meaningful. These jokers are experts at destroying things (no skill or talent is needed to do that), but they’re pretty much incapable of building anything useful (lots of skill, talent, and guts are needed to do that).

That’s because the people who choose to hurt others are the broken souls of the world who are deeply hurting themselves. I remind myself of this often whenever I deal with mean-spirited comments or mean-spirited behavior. You should too.
Simply put, emotionally mature people don’t spend their valuable time trying to destroy people. If you’re dealing with people who seemingly find pleasure in directing destructive criticism your way–it could be a customer, your significant other, your boss/coworker, or even your mom–just remember this: Their hate has nothing to do with how they feel about you, it’s a reflection about how they feel about themselves.

YEBAH !!>> I CAME ACROSS THIS SAYING ‘KARMA IS A BITCH ‘ A FEW TIMES WHILE READING SOME COMMENTS ONLINE RECENTLY. I UNDERSTAND KARMA AS A RELIGIOUS CONCEPT TO MEAN ‘WHAT GOES AROUND, COMES AROUND’.. I ALSO UNDERSTAND THAT BITCH IS A DEROGATORY WORD FOR INSULTING A WOMAN. >> WHY IS KARMA BEING REFERRED TO AS A BITCH? IS THIS A NEW INTERPRETATION ON WHAT KARMA IS ABOUT?

Also used as the rhetorical question
Ain't karma a bitch?
Synonyms:
  • What goes around, comes around
  • Getting his just desserts
  • He had it coming
and strongly related to
  • Payback's a bitch
It is likely a mix of having bad Karma and the idiom Payback's a bitch, where Payback is performed by someone wronged by the now punished person, but Karma just happened to the person for some seemingly righteous reason not necessarily related to a person or physical entity.
The bitch part is not aimed at Karma, the concept, but at the resulting punishment, where it refers to the unpleasantness of being punished for something you did.
It is a taunt aimed at a person who is supposedly asking for the situation he is in due to his previous actions.
So the person saying it, considers the one he says it to or about deserves to be punished because of something they did.
For example someone so busy pointing and laughing at a person who had an accident, that he walks straight into a lamp post and breaks his nose. His friend who did not find the accident they saw funny, could say "Ain't Karma a bitch?"
There's another meaning of bitch that should clear this up. From NOAD:
bitch (noun)
1 a female dog, wolf, fox, or otter.
informal derogatory a woman whom one dislikes or considers to be malicious or unpleasant.
• [in sing. ] informal a thing or situation that is unpleasant or difficult to deal with : the stove is a bitch to fix.
So, in the phrase karma is a bitch, the writer means:
"When what goes around comes around, the situation can be difficult to deal with or fix."
In Indian Religions ( Hinduism, Buddhism, Sikhism and Jainism ), the resultant of doing something generates a Karma, and Not doing anything also generates a karma.
Doing right ( Dharma ) generates Good Karma and Doing Wrong ( Adharma ) generates Bad Karma.
However Dharma is subjective to time, space , society and being. What may be Dharma to you can be Adharma to someone else.
A fish and cat see water differently. Water to fish is life and death to cat.
There are no answers given in hinduism. Only right questions. The person has to find answers in "n" number of lives.
ITS FUCKING COMPLICATED.
Hence KARMA IS A BITCH.
Cos, you never know, what you are doing thinking Dharma may still generate Bad Karma to you.
Hope this will help you understand it better https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jik3hqAKiOY

HEINEKEN CELEBRATES TANZANIAN ‘MEN OF THE WORLD’ WITH LIMITED EDITION CITY BOTTLES.

Heineken Tanzania Country Manager Micheal Mbungu unveils the new limited edition Cities bottles
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Global campaign connects consumers all over the world with iconic city bottles.

HEINEKEN is known for its legendary campaigns and memorable experiences. Heineken® has unveiled its latest global campaign, ‘Cities of the World,’ aimed at inspiring men to live worldly, new adventures by unlocking the secrets of their cities. The campaign started from 15th October and it will end on  15th December this year, inspires men to “open their world” and experience true worldliness and adventure. Tanzanian ‘Men of the World’ will have the opportunity to participate in promotions and social media activations on Facebook.com/Heineken and Twitter @Heineken_TZ.

The activations are designed to encourage exploration of their cities and celebrate memorable experiences with Heineken®, the world’s most international premium beer. Heineken® has produced a set of specially designed bottles, each with one of six global cities printed on it: New York, Shanghai, Berlin, Amsterdam, London & Rio de Janeiro. The special edition bottles will be available in over 100 countries around the world, including Kenya, Uganda and Tanzania.

The limited edition bottles are produced in the same brewery as the regular bottle, and the beer remains exactly the same. This is the first time that Heineken® is deploying a set of limited edition bottles across the globe at once, with each of the cities printed on the special edition bottles representing an iconic global destination associated with its worldly culture, unique experiences and vibrant social scene.
 “Men of the World want to make the most out of their time in the city, because they know life only gives them one shot. So they really live their city by seeking out new experiences and adventures and they have an underlying fear of missing out on the best ones (FOMO),” said Uche Unigwe, General Manager HEINEKEN East Africa Import Company.


The ‘Cities of the World’ campaign aims to inspire and motivate consumers to get out of their comfort zones, to embrace the unusual and embark on worldly adventures. It also reaffirms Heineken®’s status as the most international premium beer, informing consumers that whether they are in Dar es Salaam, New York, Amsterdam or any of the other city, their Heineken® is the same premium quality.

NAWAOO!!! XO OBO BADDEST DAVIDO IS ALSO COMING IN BONGO FOR SERENGETI FIESTA.!! WHAT A SURPRISE……


AMERICAN T.I, NIGERIAN WAJE, ASH HAMMAN FROM DUBAI AND VICTORIA KIMANI FROM KENYA ARE THE INTERNATIONAL ARTISTS EXPECTED TO LAND @ THE DAR ES SALAAM INTERNATIONAL AIRPORT TODAY FOR THE 2014 SERENGETI FIESTA ON SATURDAY 18TH OCTOBER….


A Swahili saying that says “Hayawi hayawi mwisho huwa” will be justified today as thousands of fans in Tanzania get set to be full at the Mwl. Julius Nyerere International airport  to welcome T.I and other international artists that will rock the stage of Serengeti Fiesta finals this year. The 2014 Serengeti Fiesta finals are set to be even more colourful whereby some of the local artists expected to accompany T.I include the likes of: - Diamond Platnumz, Ya Moto Band, TMK Wanaume Family, Weusi, Tip Top Connection, Ommy Dimpoz, Alikiba, Mwana Fa, Shaa, Vanessa Mdee, Recho, Linah, Barnaba, Mr. Blue, Young Killa, Ney wa Mitego and Stamina all set to define and prove indeed The 2014 Serengeti Fiesta “Ni Sheeedah” that day. Speaking to journalists a day before the main show was Serengeti Premium Lager’s Brand Manager Mr. Rugambo Rodney who said… “We were eagerly looking forward to this day and indeed everything is working according to plan….Tomorrow is the D-day and mine is to assure our fans that SBL together with prime promotions will deliver one of the best shows of the 2014 Serengeti Fiesta and this is proved by the number of International and local artists on the list”.


As the 2014 Serengeti Fiesta’s D-day on the horizon, there have been a number of pre-activities also taking place in Dar. First, Dance la Fiesta a dancing competition that took place at San Siro Sinza gave judges a headache as who was the best amongst the groups that had come to compete but at last it was “Wazawa” who walked away with 3million Tsh after great performances that satisfied the judges, then came the Super Nyota Divas competition Dar region where “Hellen George” from Dar will face off 16 contestants from other regions for the year’s Serengeti Super Nyota Diva competition. Serengeti Fiesta has toured more than 15 regions in Tanzania this year. Fiesta has empowered local citizens in the regions visited and has also received great recognition in regions that festivals have happened for the first time such as Kahama, Bukoba and Songea.

UPDATE: BIG BROTHER AFRICA 2014 THE HOTSHOTS: Wat’s On -‘OUR VERY OWN TZ IDRISS’

There were tears earlier when Sipe took offense to an off-hand remark by Tanzanian Idris about her being a gold-digger. Fleeing to the bedroom, she was comforted by Goitse, and later JJ as well. They encouraged her to be strong and keep on playing the game the way she alwasy had, telling her she was neither a quitter nor the type of person to go home. Idris did not seem aware that he had hurt Sipe’s feelings and joinedSamantha and Tayo outside in a conversation that ranged from Montecasino in South Africa to Selous Game Reserve in Tanzania. Sitting with them was Lilian, who looked bored and did not contribute much to the conversation.
After they received the brief for the second week’s Extravaganza, as well as further instructions, the teams split up and hashed out their ideas. Between talk of amnesia, the mafia, family rivalry, gods and pregnant girls, teams had the dramatic element nailed. We can’t wait till they start putting their dances together! The teams are different than last week and the dynamics seemed better than before – at first. It did not take long before arguments and confusion broke out again. Sheillah (in Team B) got very upset, complaining that other team members would not let her get a word in edgewise. In Team A, JJ was having no problem making himself heard, taking the lead as always.

Disagreements were minor, and the creative flow between all the housemates was good overall. Will this period of bliss last till Saturday night, or will a misunderstanding knock a housemate over the edge?

A VERY INSPIRATIONAL VIDEO,- NO MATTER HOW BAD YOU THINK YOU GOT IT, SOMEONE OUT THERE HAS GOT IT WORST. APPRECIATE WHAT YOU HAVE AND REMEMBER BE GREATFULL.

If you think things are bad for you then Imagine being born without arms. No arms to wrap around a friend ; no hands to hold the ones you love; no fingers to experience touch ; no way to lift or carry things. How much more difficult would life be if you were living without arms and hands? Or what about legs? Imagine if instead of no arms, you had no legs. No ability to dance, walk, run, or even stand. Now put both of those scenarios together… no arms and no legs. What would you do? How would that affect your everyday life ?

I’VE ALWAYS NOTICED IT’S FAIRLY COMMON TO HEAR STORIES ABOUT DIFFERENT FAMOUS PEOPLE BECOMING DEPRESSED, SUICIDAL, HOOKED ON DRUGS ETC. WHY IS THIS?? WHY WOULD SOMEONE GET DEPRESSED WHEN THEY HAVE THE WORLD’S BEST JOB, MAKE THE MOST MONEY, AND ARE ADORED BY THE ENTIRE WORLD? BUT WHY DO THEY PUSH IT TO THE EXTREME TO THE POINT OF ATTEMPTING SUICIDE. I ALWAYS SEE ON THE NEWS ….

Most of us have probably wanted to be celebrities at one point in our lives. We have dreamed about the fame, fortune and glamor that comes with it. Many people are even obsessed with celebrities and popular culture. However, there's unfortunately also a darker side than often seems to be associated with celebrity status - addiction to drugs, alcohol and painful bouts with loneliness and depression. So, what factors do you think cause this to happen? What exactly does it mean to say that someone "can't handle fortune and fame"? Is it work-related stress, lack of privacy, sleepless nights, a feeling of fakeness or inability to live a normal life? Do celebrities become depressed because they are no longer as popular as they once were, or because their personal wealth declines sharply as they grow older ?

I think money has a lot to do with it. These are people that are constantly being told how great they are, how pretty or handsome they are, how talented they are, and so on. I think they get really full of themselves because of that. It is devastating to them to have a movie they are in flop, or be out of the limelight for too long, or have a scandle they are connected to. They kind of live in a glass bowl. They have to keep their curtains closed because otherwise papparatzi will take photos of them. They must shred their mail and anything written on because the paps go through their garbage. They cannot go out to eat, or to the movie, or to an amusment park, most anywhere, and not be recognized and draw a crowd want an autograph, a picture, their time. They must be diligent with their children to protect them and their privacy. I think there is a lot of pressure when you are in the publics eyes. They do not have normal lives for the most part. I imagine that can stress you out a lot and it is easy to begin drinking or doing drugs. These people are surrounded by others that use, and they get offered some if they'd like. I think the root of it all is money and needing a break from the craziness. I've felt insecurity many times in my life, but it never caused me get addicted to drugs or feel like ending my life. It made me want to avoid the source of my insecurity or overcome it in some way.... Seif Kabelele...


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WTF? Are you serious???? As if you can even ask why!! They are constantly harrassed by papparazzi, the press, haters and critics. Every day of their lives are surrounded by criticism and pressure to be what people want them to be. Most singers and actors who get hooked on drugs go that way because of the pressure of always having to perform and act a certain way to please fans and critics. Their lives would be ten times as stressful as the busiest person you know. try to sympathize.... Nandine


Because fame and fortune is an illusion. We live in a soulless society that has placed too much value on something as meanginless as large stacks of green paper and the admiration of a bunch of babbling idiots....Miyeye

Why do they push it to the extreme and try and commit suicide? Imagine this: Your society tells you that money, fame and power is the peak of the mountain. You expend unbelievable amounts of energy and cope with huge amounts of stress to get there, and you find out that life is no brighter up there. You just exchanged one set of problems for another. Society has our priorities mixed up. If you're not happy without money you are not going to be happy with it. The art of being content is the realm of wise men throughout the ages. This is old, old stuff. People never learn, there have been unhappy rich people since there were riches to acquire. There have been people who are dirt poor and perfectly, blissfully happy. Maybe that's something we should all ponder from time to time......Gueseppe


Because some are not capable of handling the pressure that comes with fame , imagine yourself as a celebrity, unless you know something that everyone else don't you don't really have much of a job security, will you still be able to find work next month? can you still afford your current lifestyle ..when you go out, are you concerned about your image, safety, or can you even go out at all , what can you do to keep doing what you do, are you even still relevant........... Pachiane

Being harassed by everyone is the worlds best job? and lots of people get depressed, but celebrity depression is made public obviously.................Kapeche

It's called being human. Just because a bunch of people know of your existence and brings you money doesn't change the fact that they still have human emotions and sensations...Indira



JUDITH WAMBURA A.K.A LADY JAY DEE IS BACK Y’ALL… IT’S ON 31 OCTOBER @ MOG BAR & RESTAURANT FORMELY NYUMBANI LOUNGE


#UPDATE: BIG BROTHER AFRICA 2014 SEASON 9 THE HOTSHOTS: FRANKIE, TAYO AND JJ LEAD IN NOMINATIONS, >> WHO WILL SAMANTHA SAVE AND REPLACE??

Soon after the first eviction show yesterday, each remaining housemate was called to the diary room tomake their two nominations and give valid reasons for their nominations. One rule applied: If a housemate refuses to nominate, they will automatically be put up for eviction. So it goes without saying that all housemates managed to come forth with nominations. New head of house of the week, Samantha will later on the nominationshow have the chance to save and replace any of the nominated housemates with the others. See how the nominations went!
Frankie, Tayo and JJ are leading in the nominations. Whilst many find Tayo’s loudness and abrasiveness distasteful, other housemates reckon Frankie lacks presence and that JJ is full of himself with a “know-it-all” attitude.
First in the diary room was Alusa who nominated Esther and Tayo. He said that he did not connect with Esther and found Tayo to be aggressive. Arthur was next and he nominated JJ and Sabina. He said that JJ was the reason his group lost the extravaganza and that Sabina shouted a lot in her bid to shine.
Butterphly nominated Frankie and Esther because they had gone cold on her, with the result being that they were not getting along anymore. Ellah nominated Tayo because he is aggressive and reckoned they could do without that energy in the house. Her second nomination was Laveda whom she said came off as controlling and so had not gotten to know her better.
After much struggling, Esther finally settled on her nominations – JJ and Permithias. She said that JJ was not a good listener in the group task and that Permithias was provocative and rehashed unnecessary past issues. Frankie nominated Tayo because he talks down on peopl; he said he is immature and very condescending. He also nominated JJ because he always puts the work of others down.

Goitse nominated Esther and and Lilian because she felt they were both poor teamplayers and even after their team lost the extravaganza, they sought to put the blame on other team members. Idris nominated Frankie because he didn’t quite blend in the house and Permithias because he is trying to play the girls. JJ nominated Lillian because of her negativity in their group and Laveda because she began abusing her rights as HoH.

Kacey Moore nominated Frankie for the same reason as that of Idris and Sabina, because he hasn’t been accommodating of others. Laveda nominated JJ because she felt he failed at his task of being a director for their show as they lost and Frankie for not being forthcoming with himself. Lilian nominated JJ because she felt he had a “big head” and felt Alusa couldn’t humble himself in a group set-up.
Luis wanted Alusa to go because he reminded him of Mira and JJ because he came across as a ‘know-it-all’. Mr. 265 nominated Permithias because he had no self-control with how far he pushed people and Arthur because he seemed to be resistant to criticism and stuck in his own world. Macky2 nominated Laveda for being unfair in the manner in which she selected her teams and Frankie for not being real and closing himself up in his shell.
M’am Bea said Esther and Sabina needed to learn other ways of showing respect in their speech and therefore nominated them for being smart mouths. Nhlanhla said Tayo was too loud and abrasive and had no specific reason for nominating Sabina. Permithias said Tayo disrespected women and said Frankie was lost in everything and risked becoming irrelevant in the house. Sabina wanted to get rid of Lilian because she felt they had similar strategies and Tayo for being a loud mouth.
Samantha nominated Frankie and Arthur because she wanted to evict a complete pair from a country to avoid friction with one’s fellow countryman. Sheillah nominated Frankie for his obscure character and Permithias for being annoying. Sipe called Tayo rude and immature and nominated Permithias for not being responsible with house chores. Tayo said JJ had no character and wanted to be like him and said Permithias was a coward not fit for the house.
Trezagah nominated Samantha for bad-mouthing Mozambican men and said the unpleasant dream he had about her confirmed his choice to nominate her. He also nominated Esther because she shouts a lot and is the only one who smokes in the house.
source: www.bigbrotherafrica.com


IF YOU’RE READING THIS POST, THERE IS A CHANCE UR PARENTS R STILL ALIVE…>>> WE ALL HAD A VERY DIFFERENT CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCE. FOR SOME IT WAS INCREDIBLE. THEIR PARENTS WERE CONSISTENT, LOVING AND HONEST. FOR OTHERS, IT WAS THE OPPOSITE, THEY WERE ABSENT, AND BROKEN. THINGS YOU MUST TELL UR PARENTS B4 THEY DIE

-The Truth: Let your parents know how you really feel. The good, the bad, and the ugly. Tell them where they succeeded, where they failed, what you loved about them and even what you didn’t. It’s a tough conversation. But we only have so much time… and in my experience, people regret it if they don’t.
- That You Understand: Let them know you recognize their humanness. Take the opportunity to step back, look at each other eye to eye, adult to adult, human to human, and say, “I understand”. We all go through struggles. Divorce, abuse, failure, and pain. Your parents, just like us, were not immune to this. They too had broken parents, a rough past and likely a cause for the things they brought into your life. Let them know you “get it”. You may not approve of it. But you understand
- That You Appreciate Them: Let your parents know you’re thankful. At the bare minimum, we must admit that without them, you would not be here. Thank them for keeping you alive. There are many countries with many parents who cannot even provide life to their children. Tell them you’re grateful for the good memories and their ability to continue to love you even when you weren’t very lovable.
- That You’re Sorry: We tend to view apologies as a sign of weak character. But in fact, they require great strength. We’ve all been harsh. We’ve all been mean. At the end of the day, let your parents know you’re sorry. A genuine apology offered and accepted is one of the most profound interactions of civilized people. This will be hard, but you will not regret it
- That You Forgive Them: One of my favorite quotes of all time is, “Forgive them even if they’re not sorry.” We must remember they, like us, were doing the best they could at the time. Holding on to pain does nothing on your journey to creating a purposeful and happy life. To clarify, the act of forgiveness is by no means giving them permission to hurt you again. It’s quite the contrary. It’s giving you permission to let go and release both the pain and the anger – and hopefully, restore a relationship in the process.


PHOTOS: STEVE RNB a.k.a STEVEN WILLIAM GAMBO & ESTER EMMANUEL KUYANGANA WEDDING DAY. MAY YOUR MARRIAGE BE FILLED WITH ALL THE RIGHT INGREDIENTS, A HEAP OF LOVE, A DASH OF HUMOR, TOUCH OF ROMANCE, AND A SPOONFUL OF UNDERSTANDING. MAY YOUR JOY LAST FOREVER, CONGRATULATIONS FROM TEAM RNB

Wishing you will overcome all the winds in your life and your love will grow even stronger.

TEAM RNB @ THE CHURCH>>> Raymond, Sajo n Seif Kabelele
I'M SO HAPPY FOR YA MY PEOPLE>>>The best time to love with your whole heart is always now, in this moment, because no breath beyond the current is promised.
There are few things more frightening to a man than giving away his heart. And there are few things more comforting to a man than to know the woman he gave his heart to, will protect it with her life.
 LE CREW: RAYMOND, SUNDAY, STEVE RNB, SEIF KABELELE, MAHMOOD, CARLOS AND SAJO
 LE CREW: RAYMOND, SUNDAY, STEVE RNB, SEIF KABELELE, MAHMOOD, CARLOS AND SAJO
 LE CREW: RAYMOND, SUNDAY, STEVE RNB, SEIF KABELELE, MAHMOOD, CARLOS AND SAJO
 RAYMOND, SEIF KABELELE AND E.MUSH
 SAJO N SEIF KABELELE
 CARLOS BULA, SAJO, MAHMOOD AND RAYMOND
 LE TEAM RNB>> CARLOS, SAJO, SEIF KABELELE AND RAYMOND

 LE CREW: SAJO, MAHMOOD, CARLOS, SEIF KABELELE, MILLARD AYO AND RAYMOND
 SAJO N SEIF



VIDEO: KING WA DAR ES SALAAM OFFICIAL VIDEO BY KIMBUNGA MCHAWI.

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Wats ON’ >>> VIDEO: HATA KAMA BY WACHAWI

RANDOM QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS WITH QUEEN OF SWAGGA AND YEAH SEXY LADY ‘BABY MADAHA’

SEIF KABELELE: What’s the best advice you’ve ever been given?

BABY MADAHA : Always put away money for a rainy day because you'll never know when a marriage, relationship will end so, Its best to be able survive if you're suddenly alone, Never be a "housewife" without some kind of income of your own if he brings home all the money, he can do or say whatever he wants and you have to take it because he's the one earning a check.

SEIF KABELELE: If you are given a chance to meet with any Tanzanian Political leader, what recommendations would you have as a youth in TZ

BABY MADAHA :Remember, you cannot be both young and wise. Young people who pretend to be wise to the ways of the world are mostly just cynics. Cynicism masquerades as wisdom, but it is the farthest thing from it. Because cynics don’t learn anything. Because cynicism is a self-imposed blindness, a rejection of the world because we are afraid it will hurt us or disappoint us. Cynics always say no. But saying “yes” begins things. Saying “yes” is how things grow. Saying “yes” leads to knowledge. “Yes” is for young people. So for as long as you have the strength to, say “yes'.


 SEIF KABELELE: If women were to rule the world by 2015, how different would the world be?

BABY MADAHA: Women have always been the leader in various aspects of life. Be it at home or in the conventional man's world, a woman has always performed tasks and taken up challenges equal to her counterparts. By 2015, as the world would acknowledge it, there will be peace and sensitivity, as
women are a personification of love and compassion.

SEIF KABELELE: Which quality of women gives them an edge over men?

BABY MADAHA: The quality to create and nurture the creation with tolerance, love, and patience gives women an edge over men.

SEIF KABELELE: Do you think that the youth of today faces more pressure of performance than the previous generation?

BABY MADAHA: Yes. Definitely the youth today faces much more pressure than the previous generation. They have to adapt to several circumstances at once. This kind of pressure has made the world much more dynamic and fast-paced.

SEIF KABELELE: Tell me something about yourself.

BABY MADAHA: I am an embodiment of a new meaning of life. My purpose here, is to find the true calling of life and fulfill it. This platform is one of my steps towards reaching my goal for this destiny, which I will decide.

SEIF KABELELE: Do you consider yourself to be a giver or taker? Why?

BABY MADAHA: By the virtue of being a woman, I consider myself to be a giver as well as taker. As a woman, I am bestowed with the power to create a part of nature by taking a part of it. This is the beauty of femininity.

SEIF KABELELE: What would you say is the biggest problem facing our educational system today? Why?

BABY MADAHA: The biggest problem faced by our educational system is that it believes it's a system. A system is a set arrangement of things. However, education means to impart knowledge by giving and taking in order to empower the uneducated. This has been forgotten in the process of being a system, which needs to be re-evaluated and learned once again.

SEIF KABELELE: What is your definition of success?

BABY MADAHA: My definition of success is when my conscience agrees with the time, effort, money, and emotions spent on achieving the goal till the end of it and allows to me sleep peacefully at night.

SEIF KABELELE: What has been the biggest disappointment in your life to date?

BABY MADAHA:My biggest disappointment would be the day I name one. I chose to wear my scars as my medals, appreciate the learning, be grateful, and get on with life.

SEIF KABELELE: If you had one message to the world, what would it be?

BABY MADAHA: Live your dreams!

SEIF KABELELE: If you could go anywhere in the world, where would you go and why?

BABY MADAHA: Home. Because that is the place where I've been the happiest.

SEIF KABELELE: What is your greatest obstacle? Why? How will you overcome that?

BABY MADAHA: My greatest obstacle would be my own myopic view. I would overcome it with a change of perspective.

SEIF KABELELE: If God granted you one wish, what would you wish for?

BABY MADAHA: If God granted me one wish, I would wish for the ability to be happy. I would wish for the strength to find my happiness in every situation that I may have to face in my life.