RECENTLY, AN UP-AND COMING ACTOR FRIEND PAID ME THE WONDERFUL COMPLIMENT OF FOLLOWING MY ADVICE REGARDING HOW TO PROMOTE HERSELF ON SOCIAL MEDIA.>>>> ARTISTS??? USE SOCIAL MEDIA TO DISCOVER AND PROMOTE YOUR VOICE, …… HOW??

Present as the professional you are: Have some empathy for your goals, and realize that it's very hard to sell if you have no website, or if the site's been "under construction" since 2011, or if your Twitter account in no way indicates what you're interested in, or why I should care. Check out the websites and social media of people in your industry: what are they doing? You're responsible for how you present. Check out the people you admire: how are they presenting? What information do they display, front and center? Good artists copy, great artists steal, See what format, appearance, and platforms are used by the people whose careers you admire and get inspired.
Use social media to show your talent, instead of just talking about it. If you're an actress, why not have a Vine account and make mini-movies of you performing, or back-stage, in rehearsals or even on tour? Let me live vicariously through you, and I'll be hooked. If you want people to care about your ambitions -- and yes, you do -- allow them to share your life, and your passion. If you're a makeup artist, with aspirations of one day being featured in Allure, help the magazine's editors discover you by creating Pinterest boards devoted to the unique aspects of your talent: If you're a dancer, get on Twitter and follow the companies that inspire you. Join the conversation. This is your opportunity to speak directly to artistic directors and casting agents. This is your chance to distinguish yourself. It won't happen overnight, but if you regularly reach out, and demonstrate your passion, and have a solid website, even a Tumblr account documenting you and your experience, don't think that people won't eventually come sniffing around.
  
Use social media to develop and discover your talent. If you want to write, for example, and you don't have a blog... no, no, I'm not angry, just disappointed. Why wouldn't you take advantage of a free platform to present and articulate your vision? You were hoping that one day your talent would spring, fully-formed, from your procrastination onto the Daily news etc Or, you know, you could realize that everyone has to start

Use social media to present as the artist you wish to become. For many artists, the biggest obstacle to them fully investing in themselves is their own inability to believe, in their heart of hearts, that yes, they could be the film-maker, photographer, singer, whatever, they so yearn to be. And if you can't convince yourself, it's virtually impossible to convince the people who might otherwise hire you. You have to start seeing yourself as the artist you want to be, in order to become that person. Start valuing your art so that others may care.
Understand that different platforms reach different audiences. You'll have to spend some time thinking about who exactly is your ideal audience. What do you want people to take away from your on-line presence and personality? What are you trying to achieve? Identify your goals so you can work backwards and create a social media strategy designed to attack and achieve them.
Numbers don't matter but content is king. Some people are so mortified by the idea of starting a Facebook page, for example, and having to ask people to "like" the page, and having, for a while only 65 likes, that they dismiss the whole idea. And yet, if you have 65 people who are commenting on your page, and sharing your status updates... it's not just 65 people seeing that you got the lead role, but their friends, and friends of friends. And you truly have no idea whom your friends know. Also, yes, not all of your friends will support you, but so what? That's their loss. Because some people will change your life with their generosity and support. But no one can help you achieve your dreams IF YOU DON'T HELP YOURSELF!
So. I'm curious: what are you waiting for?


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BRAND NEW SONG FROM KING HIMSELF- STEVE RnB – POLEPOLE ( Tropical Riddim ) COMING OUT ON SEPTEMBER 18TH 2014


DANNY KAY FOR THE SMILE A DAY HAPPY NATION INITIATIVE AND CANDY CLEAR CHANNEL MOMBASA EDITION

Danny Kay is an Atlanta based hip-hop artiste,
signed by Candy n Candy Records.He has currently release a new single
“Raised from Hell” which has attracted many music fans due to its theme. The
song talks about protecting the young innocent girl child. Young and talented @only 17yrs old he has various songs under his belt including i.e.: My Girl
& Cadillac. He is among the list of artistes who will be performing in Mombasa (Big Tree Beach resort) on 14th Sept 2014, during the Smile a Day
Happy Nation Initiative and Candy Clear Channel Mombasa Edition. Other guest artistes scheduled to perform include: Jua Cali, Colonel Mustapha, Dazlah, Dr. Ofweneke, Mc Gates, Dj Bones & Mc Tony Boy just to mention a few.
 During the event watch out for the Candy crew who will be collecting "Real Smiles from Real Kenyans".  Come with your kids for we will be having a lot of goodies and fun for them.
“So you know the place to watch out
this weekend in Mombasa”

CHARACTER AND WISDOM ARE SCULPTED OVER TIME. THEY COME WITH LOSS, LESSONS, AND TRIUMPHS. THEY COME AFTER DOUBTS, SECOND GUESSES, AND EXPLORING UNKNOWNS. IF THERE WERE A DEFINITIVE PATH TO HAPPINESS AND SUCCESS, EVERYONE WOULD BE ON IT. THE SEEDS OF YOUR PROGRESS ARE PLANTED IN YOUR PAST FAILURES. YOUR BEST STORIES WILL COME FROM OVERCOMING YOUR GREATEST STRUGGLES. YOUR PRAISES WILL BE BIRTHED FROM YOUR PAINS. SO KEEP STANDING, KEEP LEARNING, AND KEEP LIVING.

Over the past five years  I have dealt with several severe hardships, including the sudden death of my parents , the loss of a best friend to illness and betrayal from a business partner. These experiences were brutal.  Each of them, unsurprisingly, knocked me down.  But when my time of mourning was over after each tragedy, i pressed forward, stronger, and with a greater understanding and respect for life.  So my challenge to you today is this:  Start looking at life’s harsh realities and toughest challenges as friends that are going to help you grow. Here are some thoughts to consider….........>>>>>>>>
 The first step is never easy.
The beginnings to good things are always the hardest, but it’s these hard times that pave the path to greatness.  Be strong and keep the faith.  It will be worth it in the end.  The greatest miracle of your success in life will not be that you finished, it will be that you found the strength and courage to begin. And remember, it’s not that those who are strong never get weak in the knees, or that they never hold their breath before they embark…  It’s that while their knees are shaking, they force themselves to breathe and take the first step.

Good things rarely come quick and easy.

Life is not easy, but it’s worth it.  If you expect it to be, you will perpetually disappoint yourself.  Achieving anything worthwhile in life takes time and effort.  You must align your efforts with your goals and then start every day ready to run farther than you did yesterday and fight harder than you ever have before.
Persistence is the single most common characteristic of high achievers.  They simply refuse to give up.  The longer you hang in there, the greater the chance that something will happen in your favor.  Success is the good fortune that comes from aspiration, desperation, perspiration and inspiration.  No matter how hard it seems, the more you persist, the more likely your success.

You will always have less control than you desire.

The only thing you can absolutely control in life is how you react to things out of your control, and there’s a lot you can’t control.  The better you adapt to this reality, the more powerful your highs will be, and the more quickly you’ll be able to bounce back from the lows.  Put most simply: Living a happy, fulfilling life means being in a state of complete acceptance of all that is, right here, right now. As your life unfolds, you will often realize that many of the times you thought you were being rejected from something good, you were in fact being redirected to something better.  You don’t have to control everything to find peace and happiness.  You just need to do you best, and then relax and have faith that things will work out.  Let go and just let life happen the way it’s supposed to.  Because sometimes the outcomes you can’t change end up changing you and helping you grow to your full potential.

You cannot avoid risk without avoiding life.

When it’s time to die, let us not discover that we have never lived. Living is a risk.  Happiness is a risk.  If you’re not a little scared sometimes, then you’re not doing it right.  Don’t worry about mistakes and failures, worry about what you’re giving up when you don’t even try.  Worry about the life you’re not living and the happiness you’re forgoing, as you merely exist in the safety of your comfort zone.  Give yourself permission to be one of the people who survived doing it wrong, who made mistakes, but recovered from them and grew into your truest self.

Your biggest problems are often in your head.

The primary cause of unhappiness and defeat is never the current situation but your thoughts about it.  Happiness and success really comes down to two elements: the way you think and the way you act based upon your thoughts. Human beings become really quite remarkable when they start thinking that they can do great things, right now, without the need for anything more.  When you believe in yourself, you have realized the first secret of success.  Often finding your way is not about going somewhere new; it’s about seeing familiar ground in new ways.  Once you do, you will realize the only difference between stumbling blocks and stepping stones is how you use them.

Long-term happiness cannot be bought; it must be earned.

If you’d rather live surrounded by pristine objects of little significance than by the traces of happy, passionate memories, stay focused on acquiring tangible possessions.  Otherwise, stop fixating on things you can touch and start caring about the things that touch you.  Each of us has a unique fire in our heart for something that makes us feel alive.  It’s your duty to find it and keep it lit. Whatever you do, don’t completely sacrifice your life for your livelihood.  Enjoy the gifts money can’t buy.  Promise yourself that you will stay true to your loves, your values, and your purpose.  Let your heart and mind work as one.  Do what it takes so that one day, many moons from now, you can look back at your life, take one final breath, and crack an honest smile.

Not everyone will support you.

If you take every insult or rude slur of your fellow human beings personally, you will be offended for the rest of your life.  One of the most freeing things we learn in life is that we don’t have to agree with everyone, everyone doesn’t have to agree with us, and that’s OK.  As Bruce Lee once said, “I’m not in this world to live up to your expectations and you’re not in this world to live up to mine.”  Live by this quote.  Don’t let the opinions of others make you forget it. It takes a long time to learn how to NOT judge yourself through someone else’s eyes, but once you do the world is yours for the taking.  We have all been placed on this earth to discover our own life, and we will never be happy or successful if we try to live someone else’s idea of it.  So give up worrying too much about what others think of you.  Regardless of what they say about you and your chosen path, remember that the only approval you need in the end is your own.

You are better off without some people you care about.

It’s during the toughest times of your life that you’ll get to see the true colors of the people who say they care about you.  Notice who sticks around and who doesn’t, and be grateful to those who leave you, for they have given you the room to grow in the space they abandoned, and the awareness to appreciate the people who loved you when you didn’t feel lovable.
Bottom line:  Be okay with giving the gift of your absence to those who do not appreciate and respect your presence.

You cannot have happiness without some sadness.

Chuck Palahniuk once said, “The only way to find true happiness is to risk being completely cut open.”  Nothing could be closer to the truth.  Some sadness is necessary.  Everything in life is two-sided.  You can’t expect to feel pleasure without ever feeling pain, joy without ever feeling sorrow, confidence without ever feeling fearful, hope without ever feeling uncertain, etc.  There is no such thing as a one-sided coin in life, with which you can buy a pain-free, trouble-free life. Life is a series of highs and lows – an adventure that requires you to take chances and actions that have the possibility of both success (happiness) and failure (sadness)

What’s done is done, but life goes on.

If you are carrying strong emotions about something that happened in your past, they may hinder your ability to live productively in the present.  With everything that has happened, you can either feel sorry for yourself or treat what has happened as a gift of knowledge.  Everything is either an opportunity to learn and grow or an obstacle that keeps you stuck.  You get to choose. Take a deep breath.  It’s going to be OK… maybe not today, but eventually.  There will be times when it seems like everything that could possibly go wrong is going wrong.  You might feel like you will be stuck in this rut forever, but you won’t.  Sure the sun stops shining sometimes, and you may get a huge thunderstorm or two, but eventually the sun will come out to shine.  Sometimes it’s just a matter of us staying as positive as possible in order to make it to see the sunshine break through the clouds again.


TOP 5 LOCAL TV PRESENTERS OF THE YEAR 2014

 Call him Casto Dickson a.k.a Mwananchi wa kawaida, working with Clouds Media Group- Clouds TV 
She goes by the name of Lotus Kiyamba , you may have seen her on the popular TV station EATV.  She hosts the show Nirvana, which is all about fashion and lifestyle. She is also a professional dancer.
Abdallah Khamis Ambua a.k.a Dulla from PLANET BONGO, working with EATV
Who is Salama Jabir? a  hardworking lady, born in a family of nine over . Growing up wasn’t easy as I kept hopping from one family to another. I never spent time with my family since I was raised by my aunties. Well, everyone has a background and it’s usually not the best, but here I am…. Say’s Salama.
Energetic Amri Masare working with ITV



DAZLAH KIDUCHE TO PERFORM @ SMILE A DAY HAPPY NATION INITIATIVE AND CANDY CLEAR CHANNEL MOMBASA EDITION

So you know the place to be this weekend in Mombasa, Dazlah Kiduche aka Dazlah is a Mombasa based bongo artiste, signed by Candy n Candy Records. The release of his latest Hit song “Bangereba” has attracted many music fanatics due to its unique dance moves. Young and talented he has various songs under his belt including ie: Mlevi wa mapenzi & Cheki my pocket.


He is among the list of artistes who will be performing in Mombasa (Big Tree Beach resort) during the Smile a Day Happy Nation Initiative and Candy Clear Channel Mombasa Edition. Other guest artistes scheduled to perform include: Jua Cali, Colonel Mustapha, Danny Kay, Dr. Ofweneke, Mc Gates, Dj Bones & Mc Tony Boy just to mention a few.

DISCOPRO: MENTORING TV CONTENT CREATORS

DISCOPRO, which takes place during DISCOP AFRICA 2014, provides powerful and unique opportunities for independent producers to learn, actively engage with potential business partners, and to carry their projects to full completion.  
One specific platform is the DISCOPRO pitching competition, where producers can submit their project/s to have notable industry professionals judge and provide valuable feedback. Film producers from across Africa are invited to register for DISCOP AFRICA and also to enter the pitching competition in one of the 4 categories: TV Series / Formats / Animation / Documentaries.
Even for those not entering the pitching competition, DISCOPRO is a must-attend for any producer who is serious about the business of film. Registered producers of DISCOPRO will receive the following opportunities during the DISCOP Africa event, taking place from November 5-7th 2014 at the Sandton Convention Centre.
 MENTORING WORKSHOPS. Two parallel tracks of 90-minute workshops will be lead by experts in the fields of development, production, distribution and marketing. All workshops will be video recorded and made available online, in English and French.
ACCESS TO THE MARKETPLACE. Producers seeking coproduction and distribution partners will be able to access advance and onsite meetings organization services, with meetings to take place in a dedicated area furnished with individual tables and available for 30-minute meetings. 

EXPERT GUIDANCE. Some of the world's most respected film industry figures will be attending DISCOP AFRICA and speaking and mentoring as part of DISCOPRO. Just some of the figures who will be at the event include: 

DISCOPRO JUDGES. Within the DISCOPRO Pitching Competition, the 4 categories are judged by leading names from the industry. Some of the judges for the DISCOPRO 2014 pitching competition include:
Anthony Silverston, Head of Development, Triggerfish (South Africa)
Anthony is a partner and head of Development at Triggerfish Animation in South Africa. He is one of the writers of “Adventures in Zambezia”, which has been ranked as the most successful South African film over of the past thirty years. He also co-wrote and directed Khumba that won two Gold Panda Awards in China. Anthony is a co-founder of Animation SA, the representative animation body of South Africa. In July 2012, he was selected as a judge for the 2012 International Emmy Awards.

Marguerite Abouet; comic books writer, screenwriter, director and producer (France) 
With over a million comic books sold in fifteen different languages worldwide, and a successful animation film that she co-wrote and co-directed, “Aya de Yopougon”, the flourishing writer and screenwriter now receives offers from big TV productions to join their team. Marguerite has an extensive knowledge in the management of workshops for screenwriters.

Gnama Bady Dega, co-founder, Skyprod (France)
Dega is a prominent Guadeloupean/ Ivorian producer. He is the co-founder and president of Skyprod, a Guadeloupean-based audiovisual production company that specializes in short formats.  Skyprod’s successful TV formats include “Domino” and “Villa Karayib”, and are now able to handle the executive productions of large-scale projects for big names in the industry, including the BBC.

Ahmadou Bakayako,Director General, Ivorian Radio and Television (RTI)
In the context of the digital transition and libration of the Ivoirian audiovisual landscape, this distinguished engineer of 36 years is determined to bring a dynamic development to the RTI and morph it into a network of international standards. He is currently looking for new talents and projects.
  
ABOUT DISCOP AFRICA
With the ninth edition set to take place from 5 to 7 November, 2014, at the Sandton Convention Center in Johannesburg, DISCOP Africa 2014 promises to be the largest and most important gathering for anyone interested in content, film, TV programming, adaptation rights and packaged channels market opportunities.  2000+ delegates from 70 countries are expected to converge on DISCOP Africa 2014, including 250+ exhibitors representing global and regional entertainment content providers from Africa and overseas; 750+ key acquisitions, commissioning and programming executives representing Africa's most important public and commercial broadcasters, pay-TV operators, OTT platforms, mobile networks and production companies; and national umbrella exhibitions representing firms from South Africa, USA, Ivory Coast, the European Union, Kenya, China, Korea, France and Israel.

With this many powerful role-players in one place, DISCOP Africa is all about business. Every year DISCOP Africa sees hundreds of millions of dollars in deals being made, with opportunities for major production houses, as well as emerging and independent producers and distributors. Networking and meeting services are provided to registered delegates and DISCOP Africa therefore provides the best opportunity to meet, network and do business in the TV and content industry in Africa.

DISCOP Africa 2014 is also proud of its many strategic partnerships, with the most recent including some of South Africa’s major players in the film and TV industry such as the Department of Arts and Culture, The National Film and Video Foundation, The Gauteng Film Commission and the SABC.

DISCOP Africa, the 20 Years of Television in South Africa conference and all other parallel events will take place from November 5 – 7th 2014 at the Sandton Convention Centre.

Registration is now open for exhibition space as well as for non- exhibiting delegates who would like to attend. All information can be found at www.discopafrica.com.  More information is also available at www.facebook.com/discopafrica.

Deadline for DISCOPRO project submissions for the pitching competition across the 4 categories is the 15th of September.  Producers can only submit one project per category. The pool of entrants will be reviewed by an internal committee and narrowed down to five nominees for each of the four categories. The list of nominees will be publicized on Monday 6 October.

All shortlisted candidates will also be publicized on our website.

Important Notice: Only producers registered for DISCOP Africa can enter the pitching competition.

All the pitching competitions will take place on the last day of Discop Africa, the 7th of November 2014. 

For more information email discopro@basiclead.com

DISCOP Africa is produced by BASIC LEAD.









THE SHOW GOES ON !! ALL THINGS HAPPEN FOR A REASON, GLAD TO HEAR THAT BIG BROTHER AFRICA 2014 IS BACK ON TRACK

Following the devastating fire on 2 September 2014 at the Big Brother house in Johannesburg, M-Net and Endemol SA have spent the last 48 hours searching both locally and internationally for a venue in which to produce Season 9 of the highly popular Big Brother Africa reality show. After exploring all possible options, the team are delighted to announce that the show will go on as a venue has been found to get the show on air within the next month.

A multitude of factors have had to be considered including the complex technical requirements, logistics, technical crews and satellite link facilities which have all formed part of the challenge. However, M-Net is delighted to assure all its Big Brother fans that their favourite reality show will launch soon and thanks fans from across the continent for their support during the last two days.

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FAMILY MEANS MORE THAN ANYTHING. YOU’VE TAUGHT ME THAT. YOU’VE TAUGHT ME SO MUCH, THANK YOU FOR BEING THERE AND FOR BEING SUPPORTIVE. YOU MEAN A LOT TO ME. HAPPY BIRTHDAY JAMILLAH KABELELE

 Even though I can’t be with you on your birthday, I’m celebrating your special day in spirit. I hope you have a great day. You mean the world to our family….. Hugs to those kids

PEOPLE AND CIRCUMSTANCES COME AND GO. LIFE DOESN’T STOP 4 ANYBODY. IT MOVES RAPIDLY AND RUSHES FROM CALM TO CHAOS IN A MATTER OF SECONDS, AND HAPPENS LIKE THIS TO PEOPLE EVERYDAY. IT’S LIKELY HAPPENING TO SOMEONE NEARBY RIGHT NOW. PAINFULLY OBVIOUS TRUTHS EVERYONE FORGETS TOO SOON

THE AVERAGE HUMAN LIFE IS RELATIVELY SHORT

We know deep down that life is short, and that death will happen to all of us eventually, and yet we are infinitely surprised when it happens to someone we know.  It’s like walking up a flight of stairs with a distracted mind, and misjudging the final step.  You expected there to be one more stair than there is, and so you find yourself off balance for a moment, before your mind shifts back to the present moment and how the world really is.LIVE your life TODAY!  Don’t ignore death, but don’t be afraid of it either.  Be afraid of a life you never lived because you were too afraid to take action.  Death is not the greatest loss in life.  The greatest loss is what dies inside you while you’re still alive.  Be bold.  Be courageous.  Be scared to death, and then take the next step anyway.

YOU LIVE THE LIFE YOU CREATE FOR YOURSELF

Your life is yours alone.  Others can try to persuade you, but they can’t decide for you.  They can walk with you, but not in your shoes.  So make sure the path you decide to walk aligns with your own intuition and desires, and don’t be scared to switch paths or pave a new one when it makes sense. Remember, it’s always better to be at the bottom of the ladder you want to climb than the top of the one you don’t.  Be productive and patient.  And realize that patience is not about waiting, but the ability to keep a good attitude while working hard for what you believe in.  This is your life, and it is made up entirely of your choices.  May your actions speak louder than your words.  May your life preach louder than your lips.  May your success be your noise in the end. And if life only teaches you one thing, let it be that taking a passionate leap is always worth it.  Even if you have no idea where you’re going to land, be brave enough to step up to the edge of the unknown, and listen to your heart.

BEING BUSY DOES NOT MEAN BEING PRODUCTIVE

Busyness isn’t a virtue, nor is it something to respect.  Though we all have seasons of crazy schedules, very few of us have a legitimate need to be busy ALL the time.  We simply don’t know how to live within our means, prioritize properly, and say no when we should. Being busy rarely equates to productivity these days.  Just take a quick look around.  Busy people outnumber productive people by a wide margin.  Busy people are rushing all over the place, and running late half of the time.  They’re heading to work, conferences, meetings, social engagements, etc.  They barely have enough free time for family get-togethers and they rarely get enough sleep.  Yet, emails are shooting out of their smart phones like machine gun bullets, and their day planners are jammed to the brim with obligations.  Their busy schedule gives them an elevated sense of importance.  But it’s all an illusion.  They’re like hamsters running on a wheel. Though being busy can make us feel more alive than anything else for a moment, the sensation is not sustainable long term.  We will inevitably, whether tomorrow or on our deathbed, come to wish that we spent less time in the buzz of busyness and more time actually living a purposeful life. 

SOME KIND OF FAILURE  ALWAYS OCCURS BEFORE SUCCESS

Most mistakes are unavoidable.  Learn to forgive yourself.  It’s not a problem to make them.  It’s only a problem if you never learn from them. If you’re too afraid of failure, you can’t possibly do what needs to be done to be successful.  The solution to this problem is making friends with failure.  You want to know the difference between a master and a beginner?  The master has failed more times than the beginner has even tried.  Behind every great piece of art is a thousand failed attempts to make it, but these attempts are simply never shown to us Bottom line:  Just because it’s not happening now, doesn’t mean it never will.  Sometimes things have to go very wrong before they can be right.  

YOU DON’T HAVE TO WAIT FOR AN APOLOGY TO FORGIVE

Life gets much easier when you learn to accept all the apologies you never got.  The key is to be thankful for every experience – positive or negative.  It’s taking a step back and saying, “Thank you for the lesson.”  It’s realizing that grudges from the past are a perfect waste of today’s happiness, and that holding one is like letting unwanted company live rent free in your head. Forgiveness is a promise – one you want to keep.  When you forgive someone you are making a promise not to hold the unchangeable past against your present self.  It has nothing to do with freeing a criminal of his or her crime, and everything to do with freeing yourself of the burden of being an eternal victim.

SOME PEOPLE ARE SIMPLY THE WRONG MATCH FOR YOU

You will only ever be as great as the people you surround yourself with, so be brave enough to let go of those who keep bringing you down.  You shouldn’t force connections with people who constantly make you feel less than amazing. If someone makes you feel uncomfortable and insecure every time you’re with them, for whatever reason, they’re probably not close friend material.  If they make you feel like you can’t be yourself, or if they make you “less than” in any way, don’t pursue a connection with them.  If you feel emotionally drained after hanging out with them or get a small hit of anxiety when you are reminded of them, listen to your intuition.  There are so many “right people” for you, who energize you and inspire you to be your best self.  It makes no sense to force it with people who are the wrong match for you.

IT’S NOT OTHER PEOPLE’S JOB TO LOVE YOU; IT’S YOURS

It’s important to be nice to others, but it’s even more important to be nice to yourself… You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.  So make sure you don’t start seeing yourself through the eyes of those who don’t value you.  Know your worth, even if they don’t.Today, let someone love you just the way you are – as flawed as you might be, as unattractive as you sometimes feel, and as incomplete as you think you are.  Yes, let someone love you despite all of this, and let that someone be YOU

EVERYTHING CHANGES, EVERY SECOND

Embrace change and realize it happens for a reason.  It won’t always be obvious at first, but in the end it will be worth it. What you have today may become what you had by tomorrow.  You never know.  Things change, often spontaneously.  People and circumstances come and go.  Life doesn’t stop for anybody.  It moves rapidly and rushes from calm to chaos in a matter of seconds, and happens like this to people every day.  It’s likely happening to someone nearby right now. Sometimes the shortest split second in time changes the direction of our lives.  A seemingly innocuous decision rattles our whole world like a meteorite striking Earth.  Entire lives have been swiveled and flipped upside down, for better or worse, on the strength of an unpredictable event.  And these events are always happening to someone else right this second. However good or bad a situation is now, it will change.  That’s the one thing you can count on.  So when life is good, enjoy it.  Don’t go looking for something better every second.  Happiness never comes to those who don’t appreciate what they have while they have it.

WHY ARE WE SO NASTY TO EACH OTHER ONLINE? WHETHER ON FACEBOOK, TWITTER, MESSAGE BOARDS OR WEBSITES, WE SAY THINGS TO EACH THAT WE WOULD NEVER SAY FACE TO FACE. SHOULDN’T WE KNOW BETTER BY NOW?

Anonymity is a powerful force. Hiding behind a fake screen name makes us feel invincible, as well as invisible. Never mind that, on many websites, we're not as anonymous as we think—and we're not anonymous at all on Facebook. Even when we reveal our real identities, we still misbehave.You've probably seen it before, people being rude or just plain mean on Facebook or Twitter. But why do our virtual manners fail to reflect the everyday ones? Social networks like Facebook and Twitter began as a way to communicate with far off friends and family, but have since morphed into a means for people to start arguments and harass each other. People seem to be taking pride in expressing this bad behavior to others because at least initially it appears to be anonymous and they can get away with it. Manners and being polite seem to disappear the second we log on to the virtual world. Whether it's a text message, a tweet, or Facebook post you can't always read sarcasm.Bullies used to be just a playground problem, now it's widespread. Everyone has heard of cyber-bullying but not everyone is a witness to it. I think a lot of it is a way to blow off steam another thing is they don't really think before typing. You have to own the words you speak as well as the ones you type. What you type can come back and haunt you. It's not as simple as deleting a post or tweet. A good rule of thumb is to think twice before pressing send and ask yourself is this something I would say to the person face-to-face? We can garner healthy discussion online, that is if we don't abuse the power the Internet and social networks have provided. We always need to ask ourselves the question, just because we can do something, should we?

It is said, the pen is mightier than the sword, but the keyboard may prove mightier still........
Do not speak evil against one another, brothers. The one who speaks against a brother or judges his brother, speaks evil against the law and judges the law. But if you judge the law, you are not a doer of the law but a judge. There is only one lawgiver and judge, he who is able to save and to destroy. But who are you to judge your neighbor?
Most people who insult other people are insecure. They think that it will make them feel better if they put someone else down, or they insult the other person to take attention off of themselves. Sometimes people who are angry insult other people because they are not mature enough to think of a different way to handle their anger except to try to start a fight or to try to make the other person feel bad. Mature people can communicate with others without insulting them. Any ideas can be discussed between mature adults without fighting or insulting each other. Mature people can "agree to disagree" and give each other the right to have different opinions. The best way to handle an insult is to ignore it, because what the immature person wants is to make you upset. If you cannot ignore the insult, you can say something like, "Mature people don't have to insult each other to communicate," and walk away. Walking away is always best because the immature person is not going to change and suddenly stop acting immature. If the person insulting you is someone you want to keep as a friend, you should say something like, "That really hurts my feelings when you say something like that. Can we talk without insults?" - this lets the person know that they need to change their behavior, and if they are friends, they will want to change and mature. Other reasons could include boredom, desire to be funny, genuine or learned hatred of another person or culture. Insults could depend on the situation, and it could be a person's way of taking their anger out on one person instead of the thing they are angry at. Insults can also be used as a form of control, whether it is to control another person, to control a conversation. Insulting outbursts are often used by people who are angry that their lives are out of control in other ways…..

BETTY NDEJEMBI NEVER IMAGINED THAT SHE WOULD BECOME A VICTIM OF CYBER BULLYING, SHE WAS NO STRANGER TO PERSONAL CHALLENGES, BUT HER EXPERIENCE WITH CYBER BULLYING WAS REALLY SOMETHING SHE WAS NOT PREPARED FOR>> R.I.P BEAUTIFUL

 one of the most destructive of bullying tactics in recent decades. The prevalence of cyber bullying is a result of how easily cyber bullies can have access to their victims. Many people do not realize the extreme effects that cyber bullying can have on children and teens.
Bullied her to death.How sad! Yet will unashamedly say #RIP... How  dare they? Cyberbullying is as dangerously bad as Ebola!They both kill

SUICIDE AND SUICIDAL BEHAVIOR !!! # NEVER IGNORE A SUICIDE THREAT OR ATTEMPTED SUICIDE

Suicide is the act of taking one's own life on purpose. Suicidal behavior is any action that could cause a person to die, such as taking a drug overdose or crashing a car on purpose.

Causes

Suicide and suicidal behaviors usually occur in people with one or more of the following:
People who try to commit suicide are often trying to get away from a situation that seems impossible to deal with. Many who make a suicide attempt are seeking relief from:
  • Feeling ashamed, guilty, or like a burden to others
  • Feeling like a victim
  • Feelings of rejection, loss, or loneliness
Suicidal behaviors may occur when there is a situation or event that the person finds overwhelming, such as:
  • Aging (the elderly have the highest rate of suicide)
  • Death of a loved one
  • Drug or alcohol use
  • Emotional trauma
  • Serious physical illness
  • Unemployment or money problems
Risk factors for suicide in teenagers include:
  • Access to guns
  • Family member who committed suicide
  • History of hurting themselves on purpose
  • History of being neglected or abused
  • Living in communities where there have been recent outbreaks of suicide in young people
  • Romantic breakup
Most suicide attempts do not result in death. Many of these attempts are done in a way that makes rescue possible. These attempts are often a cry for help.
Some people attempt suicide in a way that is less likely to be fatal, such as poisoning or overdose. Men are more likely to choose violent methods, such as shooting themselves. As a result, suicide attempts by men are more likely to result in death.
Relatives of people who attempt or commit suicide often blame themselves or become very angry. They may see the suicide attempt as selfish. However, people who try to commit suicide often mistakenly believe that they are doing their friends and relatives a favor by taking themselves out of the world.

Symptoms

Often, but not always, a person may show certain signs and behaviors before a suicide attempt, such as:
  • Having trouble concentrating or thinking clearly
  • Giving away belongings
  • Talking about going away or the need to "get my affairs in order"
  • Suddenly changing behavior, especially calmness after a period of anxiety
  • Losing interest in activities they used to enjoy
  • Self-destructive behaviors, such as heavily drinking alcohol, using illegal drugs, or cutting their body
  • Pulling away from friends or not wanting to go out
  • Suddenly having trouble in school or work
  • Talking about death or suicide, or even saying that they want to hurt themselves
  • Talking about feeling hopeless or guilty
  • Changing sleep or eating habits
  • Arranging ways to take their own life (such as buying a gun or many pills)

Treatment

People who are at risk of suicidal behavior may not seek treatment for many reasons, including:
  • They believe nothing will help
  • They do not want to tell anyone they have problems
  • They think asking for help is a sign of weakness
  • They do not know where to go for help
A person may need emergency treatment after a suicide attempt. They may need first aid, CPR, or more intensive treatments.
People who try to commit suicide may need to stay in a hospital for treatment and to reduce the risk of future attempts. Therapy is one of the most important parts of treatment.
Any mental health disorder that may have led to the suicide attempt should be evaluated and treated. This includes:
  • Bipolar disorder
  • Borderline personality disorder
  • Drug or alcohol dependence
  • Major depression
  • Schizophrenia
Always take suicide attempts and threats seriously. If you or someone you know is thinking about suicide, there are numbers that you can call from anywhere in the United States, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week: 1-800-SUICIDE or 1-800-999-9999.
Call the local emergency number (such as 911) right away if someone you know has attempted suicide. Do not leave the person alone, even after you have called for help.

Outlook (Prognosis)

About one-third of people who try to commit suicide will try again within 1 year. About 10% of people who threaten or try to commit suicide will eventually kill themselves.

When to Contact a Medical Professional

Call a health care provider right away if you or someone you know is having thoughts of suicide. The person needs mental health care right away. Do not dismiss the person as just trying to get attention.

Prevention

Avoiding alcohol and drugs (other than prescribed medicines) can reduce the risk of suicide.
In homes with children or teenagers:
  • Keep all prescription medicines high up and locked.
  • Do not keep alcohol in the home or keep it locked up.
  • Do not keep guns in the home. If you do keep guns in the home, lock them and keep the bullets separate.
Many people who try to commit suicide talk about it before making the attempt. Sometimes, just talking to someone who cares and who does not judge them is enough to reduce the risk of suicide.
However, if you are a friend, family member, or just know someone who you think may attempt suicide, never try to manage the problem on your own. Seek help. Suicide prevention centers have telephone "hotline" services.
Never ignore a suicide threat or attempted suicide.
PROPS: Medline Plus


BRINGING THE 'SMILE A DAY' MUSIC CHALLENGE TO OUR COMMUNITY!!

Bringing the “SMILE A DAY” music challenge to our community!
After the successful launch, The Smile Initiative adventure beginning in Kenya teams up with HERO RADIO (99.0 FM) and our first stop will be at THE Prinsloo 7s Nakuru RFC on the 30th TO 31st August, 2014.
Candy records will give the youths a chance of a lifetime, where they will get 3 MINUTES to compose and sing a HAPPY SONG with a Grin Creeping across your face!!!!!!!!
The most creative writer and best singer gets’ their video uploaded on our YouTube channel and the video with the most views WINS BIG with CANDY n CANDY RECORDS!!!!
Watch out for the Candy n Candy Records crew who will be giving out Smiley Tags, taking instant photos and FUN activities for everyone.

It is worth mentioning that this initiative comes as part of a series of community initiatives.

Kind regards, 

Mercy kimani