WHY ARE WE SO NASTY TO EACH OTHER ONLINE? WHETHER ON FACEBOOK, TWITTER, MESSAGE BOARDS OR WEBSITES, WE SAY THINGS TO EACH THAT WE WOULD NEVER SAY FACE TO FACE. SHOULDN’T WE KNOW BETTER BY NOW?

Anonymity is a powerful force. Hiding behind a fake screen name makes us feel invincible, as well as invisible. Never mind that, on many websites, we're not as anonymous as we think—and we're not anonymous at all on Facebook. Even when we reveal our real identities, we still misbehave.You've probably seen it before, people being rude or just plain mean on Facebook or Twitter. But why do our virtual manners fail to reflect the everyday ones? Social networks like Facebook and Twitter began as a way to communicate with far off friends and family, but have since morphed into a means for people to start arguments and harass each other. People seem to be taking pride in expressing this bad behavior to others because at least initially it appears to be anonymous and they can get away with it. Manners and being polite seem to disappear the second we log on to the virtual world. Whether it's a text message, a tweet, or Facebook post you can't always read sarcasm.Bullies used to be just a playground problem, now it's widespread. Everyone has heard of cyber-bullying but not everyone is a witness to it. I think a lot of it is a way to blow off steam another thing is they don't really think before typing. You have to own the words you speak as well as the ones you type. What you type can come back and haunt you. It's not as simple as deleting a post or tweet. A good rule of thumb is to think twice before pressing send and ask yourself is this something I would say to the person face-to-face? We can garner healthy discussion online, that is if we don't abuse the power the Internet and social networks have provided. We always need to ask ourselves the question, just because we can do something, should we?

It is said, the pen is mightier than the sword, but the keyboard may prove mightier still........
Do not speak evil against one another, brothers. The one who speaks against a brother or judges his brother, speaks evil against the law and judges the law. But if you judge the law, you are not a doer of the law but a judge. There is only one lawgiver and judge, he who is able to save and to destroy. But who are you to judge your neighbor?
Most people who insult other people are insecure. They think that it will make them feel better if they put someone else down, or they insult the other person to take attention off of themselves. Sometimes people who are angry insult other people because they are not mature enough to think of a different way to handle their anger except to try to start a fight or to try to make the other person feel bad. Mature people can communicate with others without insulting them. Any ideas can be discussed between mature adults without fighting or insulting each other. Mature people can "agree to disagree" and give each other the right to have different opinions. The best way to handle an insult is to ignore it, because what the immature person wants is to make you upset. If you cannot ignore the insult, you can say something like, "Mature people don't have to insult each other to communicate," and walk away. Walking away is always best because the immature person is not going to change and suddenly stop acting immature. If the person insulting you is someone you want to keep as a friend, you should say something like, "That really hurts my feelings when you say something like that. Can we talk without insults?" - this lets the person know that they need to change their behavior, and if they are friends, they will want to change and mature. Other reasons could include boredom, desire to be funny, genuine or learned hatred of another person or culture. Insults could depend on the situation, and it could be a person's way of taking their anger out on one person instead of the thing they are angry at. Insults can also be used as a form of control, whether it is to control another person, to control a conversation. Insulting outbursts are often used by people who are angry that their lives are out of control in other ways…..

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